The collection of ten absorbing tales by master psychotherapist Irvin D. Yalom uncovers the mysteries, frustrations, pathos, and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter. In recounting his patients' dilemmas, Yalom not only gives us a rare and enthralling glimpse into their personal desires and motivations but also tells us his own story as he struggles to reconcile his ...
The collection of ten absorbing tales by master psychotherapist Irvin D. Yalom uncovers the mysteries, frustrations, pathos, and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter. In recounting his patients' dilemmas, Yalom not only gives us a rare and enthralling glimpse into their personal desires and motivations but also tells us his own story as he struggles to reconcile his all-too human responses with his sensibility as a psychiatrist. Not since Freud has an author done so much to clarify what goes on between a psychotherapist and a patient.
Betty, what's the danger in letting me matter to you?
I am not sure. It feels scary, like I'll need you too much. I'm not sure you'll be there for me. I'm going to have to leave California in a year, remember?"
A year's a long time. So you avoid me now because you won't always have me?
I know it doesn't make sense. But I do the same thing with California. I like New York and I don't want to like California. I'm afraid that, if I form friends here and start to like it, I might not want to leave. The other thing is that I start to feel "Why bother?" I'm here for such a short time. Who wants temporary friendships?
The problem with that attitude is you end up with an unpeopled life. Maybe that's part of the reason you feel empty inside. One way or another, every relationship must end. Ther... (查看原文)
I DO NOT LIKE to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps it is because of envy——I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. (查看原文)
Thought-provoking and insightful, Dr. Yalom's love's executioner is brimmed with wisdom, vulnerability and reflection about life and psychotherapy. It has been a blessing reading through this book both as a psychotherapist and a human myself. This book not ...
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1 有用 bella 2012-10-21 13:27:18
好看+有用得不可思议——Yalom rocks
0 有用 Candela 2024-04-06 17:10:54 英国
心里咨询行业启蒙书。
0 有用 莱克特 2015-06-27 16:06:13
序言有燃烧的感觉 . 死亡, 孤独, 自由, 虚无 . 宇宙 . 五位一体 . 在通往疯癫的有生之年 还是会不断探索 .
0 有用 赵州的柏树 2014-09-10 10:09:52
这些案例都是基本上无解的"终极问题", 关于执着,关于死亡等等, 但是作者像个武林高手居然也能摸索着绝地逢生, 这种强大给人安慰. 因为是源自真实,又有了比虚构作品更深一层的力量
1 有用 Shirin 2022-07-23 04:48:37
在别人的故事里看到自己。很多人一定最喜欢love‘s executioner这一章,实在太精彩,但我的最爱还是fat lady,藏匿在嬉笑里的脆弱,被作者诚实到令人生畏的笔触赤裸裸地揭露出来。毫无疑问,作者对于女性“不够政治正确”的解读可以说是处处显现,我一开始解读为傲慢,细细想来,也许没有这坦诚的丑陋,这本书也不至于这般动人。