Betty, what's the danger in letting me matter to you?
I am not sure. It feels scary, like I'll need you too much. I'm not sure you'll be there for me. I'm going to have to leave California in a year, remember?"
A year's a long time. So you avoid me now because you won't always have me?
I know it doesn't make sense. But I do the same thing with California. I like New York and I don't want to like California. I'm afraid that, if I form friends here and start to like it, I might not want to leave. The other thing is that I start to feel "Why bother?" I'm here for such a short time. Who wants temporary friendships?
The problem with that attitude is you end up with an unpeopled life. Maybe that's part of the reason you feel empty inside. One way or another, every relationship must end. Ther... (查看原文)
I DO NOT LIKE to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps it is because of envy——I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. (查看原文)
Thought-provoking and insightful, Dr. Yalom's love's executioner is brimmed with wisdom, vulnerability and reflection about life and psychotherapy. It has been a blessing reading through this book both as a psychotherapist and a human myself. This book not ...
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1 有用 TianbingJ 2022-06-15 21:22:37
太多关于梦的分析
3 有用 笔 2025-03-24 21:15:03 上海
一度看得气笑了。我怎么就买了三本欧文·亚隆的书呢，这本成功让我不想读其他的。本书常被人诟病的地方，比如《胖女士》那篇对肥胖女性的恶意，还有动不动就对女患者产生性欲，对男患者投射想象自我，我只能说作者对于反移情的自我暴露非常诚实，令人瞠目结舌。我愤怒的点是，作者作为医生多次【过度卷入】了患者的个人生活，直接对患者的选择【指手画脚】。用现代的好听点的话说叫爹味，说严重点就是罔顾行业伦理，当然了可能以亚... 一度看得气笑了。我怎么就买了三本欧文·亚隆的书呢，这本成功让我不想读其他的。本书常被人诟病的地方，比如《胖女士》那篇对肥胖女性的恶意，还有动不动就对女患者产生性欲，对男患者投射想象自我，我只能说作者对于反移情的自我暴露非常诚实，令人瞠目结舌。我愤怒的点是，作者作为医生多次【过度卷入】了患者的个人生活，直接对患者的选择【指手画脚】。用现代的好听点的话说叫爹味，说严重点就是罔顾行业伦理，当然了可能以亚隆博士字里行间对名声的自恋，认为自己根本无需遵守这些。作者多次提到，他不信奉传统精神分析和各种衍生出的个人流派（并为此骄傲，更可笑了），然后写了一本他所谓的存在主义心理治疗的书。我还能说什么呢？这种擅自给患者提建议、过分的反移情、注重关系，我是明白欧陆精神分析对美国心理治疗的那些坏印象是怎么来的了。 (展开)
3 有用 Solara 2024-06-04 16:37:23 云南
看到第二章，实在读不下去。作者是那种很典型很刻板的心理医生，一方面对本该包容的患者抱有强烈的偏见，一方面对本不该容忍的态度又一反常态地表示谅解。书中不存在故事，只存在作者无处安放的傲慢和早已不忍直视的自恋，读了真叫人难受难忍。
1 有用 搬家 2022-08-14 01:28:49
没意思
2 有用 clytid 2022-01-21 00:43:59
这书名简直惨不忍睹到不敢把书带出去读，只能放在床头，其实在前言就一下子吸引住我了，作者总结的最重要的四种存在性关怀，我竟能一一映射和体会：我们及挚爱终有一死、生活不如我们所愿的那样自由、终极孤独和生命的无意义感。书中有十个与存在性关怀有关的心理咨询案例，大部分比较有特色，最后一个故事中涉及的梦的解析让人印象深刻。