A girlfriend is a female friend or acquaintance, often a regular female companion with whom one
is platonic, romantically or sexually involved.[1][2] This is normally a short-term committed relationship,
where other titles (e.g., wife, partner) are more commonly used for long-term relationships. A
girlfriend can also be called a sweetheart, darling, or honey.[3] The analogous male term is
"boyfriend".
Contents
1Scope
2Etymology
3Related terms
4Distinction from "lady friend"
5Widening acceptance for describing people of all ages
6See also
7References
8Bibliography
Scope[edit]
A man with his girlfriend at Alexanderplatz in March 1975.
Partners in committed relationships are also sometimes described as a "significant other" or simply
"partner", especially if the individuals are cohabiting.[4]
"Girlfriend" and "partner" mean different things to different people; the distinctions between the terms
are subjective. How the term is used will ultimately be determined by personal preference.[5][6]
In 2005, a study was conducted of 115 people ages 21 to 35 who were either living with or had lived
with a romantic partner. It notes that the lack of proper terms often leads to awkward situations, such
as someone becoming upset over not being introduced in social situations to avoid the question.[7]
There exists some ambiguity between the terms "girl friend," or a friend who is a girl, and "girlfriend."
The transition between the two is a significant aspect of adolescent development.[8]
Both forms of "girlfriend" and "girl friend" are used by different people to mean different things. For
example, when the term "girlfriend" is used by a female about another female in a non-sexual, non-
romantic context, the two-word form "girl friend" is sometimes used to avoid confusion with the
sexual or romantic meaning; however, this is not a rule. In this sense of its usage, "girlfriend" is used
in terms of very close friends and has no sexual connotations, unless it is in the case
of lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, transgender women. The term "girlfriend" is also used
in LGBT communities and can refer to people of any sex or sexuality.[9][10]
The term "girlfriend" does not necessarily imply a sexual relationship, but is often used to refer to a
girl or woman who is dating a person she is not engaged to without indicating whether she is having
sex with them. With differing expectations of sexual mores, the term "dating" can imply romantic
activity whereas simply using "friend" would likely avoid implying such intimacy. It is essentially
equivalent to the term "sweetheart", which has also been used as a term of endearment.[11] A similar
relationship wherein there is no exclusivity is sometimes referred to by terms such as friend with
benefits.[12]
Etymology[edit]
The word "girlfriend" was first used in 1863 as "a woman's female friend in youth.” In 1922, the word
girlfriend was used to mean a man's sweetheart.[13]
Related terms[edit]
A female engaged in an extramarital relationship with a married man is frequently considered
a "mistress". The word "mistress" was originally used as a neutral counterpart for the words
"mister" or "master".[14]
The word "madam" is still a respectful form of address, but has had sexual connotations
since the early 18th century and has been used to refer to the owner of a brothel since the early
20th century.[14]
Some terms of endearment directed to females, a romantic relationship not required, are
"darling", "sweetheart", "love", etc.[15]
Users of Internet slang and SMS slang often shorten "girlfriend" to the initialism "gf".[16]
Additionally, gender-indiscriminate terms also apply (e.g., lover, heartthrob, paramour,
squeeze, sweetheart, true love, wooer, date, steady, admirer, bae, or companion).
Distinction from "lady friend"[edit]
A similar, but not equivalent, concept is the more ambiguous "lady friend" – a companion of the
female gender who is possibly less than a girlfriend but potentially more than a friend. That is to say,
the relationship is not necessarily platonic, nor is it necessarily an exclusive, serious, committed, or
long-term relationship. The term avoids the overt sexual implications that come with referring to a
woman as someone's "mistress" or "lover". In that sense, it can often be a euphemism. The term can
also sometimes be employed when someone simply does not know the exact status of a woman that
a man has been associating with. For instance, tabloid headlines often note that a celebrity has been
seen with a new "lady friend".[17][18] "Lady friend" may also be used to signify a romantic relationship
with an older woman, when the term "girl" as in "girlfriend" may be deemed age-inappropriate.
Widening acceptance for describing people of all ages[edit]
As of 2007, The New York Times style guide discouraged the use of the term "girlfriend" for an adult
romantic partner, stating, "Companion is a suitable term for an unmarried partner of the same or the
opposite sex."[19] The Times received some criticism[19] for referring to Shaha Riza as the "girlfriend"
of World Bank president Paul Wolfowitz in one article about the controversy over their relationship.
Other news articles in the Times had generally referred to her as Wolfowitz's "companion".
However, the 2015 edition of the New York Times Manual of Style states that the view on the term
"girlfriend" as being informal is now relegated to the realm of traditionalism, and that it has become
accepted to use "girlfriend" and "boyfriend" to describe people of all ages (with consideration given
to the preferences of the people involved).[20]
See also[edit]
Society portal
Domestic partnership
Girlfriend experience
References[edit]
1. ^ The Free Dictionary By Farlex. "Girlfriend". Retrieved 6 May 2012.
2. ^ [Link]. "Boyfriend". Retrieved 6 May 2012.
3. ^ [Link]. "Boyfriend". Retrieved 6 May 2012.
4. ^ [Link]. "Significant other". Retrieved 6 May 2012.
5. ^ StackExchange. "English Language & Usage". Retrieved 6 May 2012.
6. ^ Killermann, Sam (7 December 2011). "Why I say "partner" instead of boyfriend or
girlfriend". It's Pronounced Metrosexual. Retrieved 6 May 2012.
7. ^ Jayson, Sharon (23 June 2008). "Adults stumble over what to call their romantic
partners". USA Today. Retrieved 6 May 2012.
8. ^ Grover, R. L.; Nangle, D. W.; Serwik, A.; Zeff, K. R. (2007). "Girl friend, boy friend, girlfriend,
boyfriend: Broadening our understanding of heterosocial competence". Journal of Clinical Child and
Adolescent Psychology. 36 (4): 491–502. doi:10.1080/15374410701651637. PMID 18088208.
9. ^ Byrd, Rudolph P.; Beverly Guy-Sheftall (2001). Traps: African American Men on Sex and
Sexuality. Indiana University Press. ISBN 0-253-21448-3.
10. ^ Salamensky, Shelley I.; Guy-Sheftall, Beverly (2001). Talk Talk Talk: The Cultural Life of
Everyday Conversation. Routledge. ISBN 0-415-92170-8.
11. ^ The Free Dictionary By Farlex. "Sweetheart". Retrieved 6 May 2012.
12. ^ Wentland, Jocelyn J.; Reissing, Elke (December 2014). "Casual sexual relationships:
Identifying definitions for one night stands, booty calls, fuck buddies, and friends with benefits". The
Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality. 23 (3): 167–177. doi:10.3138/cjhs.2744.
13. ^ Harper, Douglas. "Girlfriend". Retrieved 6 May 2012.
14. ^ Jump up to:a b The Free Dictionary By Farlex. "Mistress". Retrieved 6 May 2012.
15. ^ Simpson, J.A. "Terms of Endearment". Archived from the original on 10 May 2012.
Retrieved 6 May 2012.
16. ^ What does gf stand for?, [Link]. Retrieved on 30 January 2008.
17. ^ Connor, Tracy (6 November 2007). "Sir Paul McCartney photographed with married
Hamptons lady friend". Daily News. New York.
18. ^ "WordNet Search". [Link].
19. ^ Jump up to:a b Ben Yagoda (20 April 2007). "What to call Paul Wolfowitz's special lady friend".
Slate.
20. ^ Siegal, Allan M.; Connolly, William G.; Corbett, Philip B.; Taylor, Jill; LaForge, Patrick;
Wessling, Susan (2015). The New York Times Manual of Style and Usage. New York: Three Rivers
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