Building Your Support Network
Research shows that having a good support network based on strong relationships is vital
for wellbeing. As humans we have a need to feel connected to others and feel a sense
of belonging; but most importantly, our social connections often provide us with the
resilience and support we need throughout our lives.
Identifying Your Current Support Network
Identifying the people you can go to for support can be reassuring, so first you need to
think about who is currently in your support network. This could be colleagues, friends,
family and/or acquaintances. To help you do this, write down the names of the people
you think of (both personally and professionally) when reading the following questions:
Who do you have the Who usually gives you Who would you talk to if you
most fun with? the best advice? were in need of urgent help?
Who do you feel you can be Who would you feel Who would
yourself around the most? comfortable crying in front of? you go to for a hug?
Who do you have the most Who do you want to share Who makes you feel good or
positive memories with? your good or bad news with? boosts your confidence?
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Reviewing Your Support Network
The people identified in the task above all play an important role in your life, they are
your support system. But now that you have their names written down on paper, you
should consider the following:
• Is there a good mix of people who would help you see things in different ways?
• Is there anyone who you would consider as supportive but did not fit any of the questions
above? Feel free to add their name and how they support you to the list.
• Is there anyone on this list who also has a negative effect on your wellbeing?
• Are there any gaps in your current network e.g. support needs that are currently not met?
Who might be able to fill those gaps?
Developing Your Support Network
Everyone will encounter a time when their current support network does not work as
well you would like, which is why we should always endeavour to continuously develop
our connections. Here are five key tips to help you expand and maintain your support
network:
Make time to keep in touch with your network regularly, this can be physically or
virtually. Putting time and effort into your connections will build strong
relationships that will provide positive benefits down the line.
Give back to the people who support you. Remember that support is a two-
way street so ensure you are checking in, listening to and supporting others where
possible too.
Actively try to meet new people whether it be through attending networking
events, social activities or classes. Even if it means stepping out of your comfort
zone, it takes courage and effort to create new connections.
Be happy to let go of people who do not fulfil your support needs. You do not
have to like everyone and it is okay if you have grown apart from someone you
were once close with.
Build your self-awareness so that you know what support you need and the kinds
of people who add positivity to your life.
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