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The Festive Muslim

The document titled 'The Festive Muslim' by Shaykh Musa Jibril discusses the importance of Muslims avoiding participation in the festivities of disbelievers, emphasizing that such actions compromise one's faith and adherence to Islamic principles. It highlights the dangers of living among non-Muslims and the need for Muslims to protect their religion and family from the influences of disbelief. The author calls for a firm commitment to the Quran and Sunnah, urging Muslims to reject any form of imitation of non-Muslim practices.

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The Festive Muslim

The document titled 'The Festive Muslim' by Shaykh Musa Jibril discusses the importance of Muslims avoiding participation in the festivities of disbelievers, emphasizing that such actions compromise one's faith and adherence to Islamic principles. It highlights the dangers of living among non-Muslims and the need for Muslims to protect their religion and family from the influences of disbelief. The author calls for a firm commitment to the Quran and Sunnah, urging Muslims to reject any form of imitation of non-Muslim practices.

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The

Festive
Muslim

Shaykh Musa Jibril ‫حفظه الله‬


Title: The Festive Muslim

Author: Shaykh Musa Abdullah Jibril ‫حفظه هللا‬


Self-publishing
Publication date: Jumada 1446AH / December 2024 CE

Published by: Jaamiatu Jibril ash-Shaamilah & Lightofthetruth


Revised by: Shaykha Umm Musa ‫حفظها هللا‬

NO RIGHTS RESERVED. Any unauthorized reprint or use of this


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of charge - for the sake of Allah.
‫َو َلن َتْر َض ٰى َع نَك ٱْلَيُه وُد َو َلا ٱلَّنَص ٰـَر ٰى َح َّتٰى َتَّتِب َع ِم َّلَتُه ْم ۗ ُقْل‬

‫ِإ َّن ُهَد ى ٱلَّلِه ُهَو ٱْلُه َد ٰى ۗ َو َلِئ ِن ٱَّتَبْع َت َأْه َو آَء ُهم َبْع َد ٱَّلِذ ى‬

‫َج آَء َك ِم َن ٱْلِع ْلِم ۙ َما َلَك ِم َن ٱلَّلِه ِم ن َو ِلٍّۢى َو َلا َنِص ير‬
NEVER WILL THE JEWS NOR THE CHRISTIANS BE
PLEASED WITH YOU (O MUHAMMAD PEACE BE
UPON HIM ) TILL YOU FOLLOW THEIR RELIGION.
SAY: "VERILY, THE GUIDANCE OF ALLAH (I.E.
ISLAMIC MONOTHEISM) THAT IS THE (ONLY)
GUIDANCE. AND IF YOU (O MUHAMMAD PEACE BE
UPON HIM ) WERE TO FOLLOW THEIR (JEWS AND
CHRISTIANS) DESIRES AFTER WHAT YOU HAVE
RECEIVED OF KNOWLEDGE (I.E. THE QURAN),
THEN YOU WOULD HAVE AGAINST ALLAH
NEITHER ANY WALI (PROTECTOR OR GUARDIAN)
NOR ANY HELPER.

HTTPS://T.ME/LIGHTOFTHETRUTH
Introduction
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

Residing in the lands of disbelief is prohibited for the Muslims as it is a danger to himself and
his religion. One of the many difficulties that have come with mass living among the
disbelievers is the confusion it has brought about to the basics of the religion and softness in
the hearts for them particularly in times of their festivities. The children rather than growing
up with the beautiful manners and characteristics of the Muslims, the Quran in their hearts
and the love of Allah in their minds, they adopt (unwillingly even) the evil characteristics and
despicable ways of the unbelievers. They are ignorant and negligent towards their religion and
over generations, the religion fades away in their offspring.

‫ِإ َّن ٱَّلِذ يَن َتَو َّفٰى ُه ُم ٱْلَم َلٰٓـِئ َكُة َظاِلِم ٓى َأنُفِس ِه ْم َقاُلو۟ا ِف يَم ُكنُتْم ۖ َقاُلو۟ا ُكَّنا ُمْس َتْض َع ِف يَن ِف ى ٱْلَأْر ِض ۚ َقاُلٓو ۟ا َأَلْم َتُكْن َأْر ُض ٱلَّلِه‬
‫َٰوِس َع ًۭة َفُتَه اِج ُر و۟ا ِف يَه اۚ َفُأ۟و َلٰٓـِئ َك َمْأ َو ٰىُه ْم َجَه َّنُم ۖ َوَس آَء ْت َمِص يًر ا‬

Allah Almighty said: “Verily! As for those whom the angels take (in death) while they are
wronging themselves (as they stayed among the disbelievers even though emigration was
obligatory for them), they (angels) say (to them): “In what (condition) were you?” They reply:
“We were weak and oppressed on earth.” They (angels) say: “Was not the earth of Allah
spacious enough for you to emigrate therein?” Such men will find their abode in Hell – What
an evil destination!”

─ [ Surat al-Nisaa: 97 ]

So though the general rule is it is upon the Muslims to migrate to the lands of Islam, this is
limited in today’s time. So in the next verse, Allah makes an exception for those who cannot
migrate. The world is filled with corruption and injustice and the rule of Allah is not
established anywhere in the world, those who try to establish it are annihilated by the nations
who gather against them. You find the so-called Muslim rulers as mere puppets of the enemies
of the religion. These enemies have inserted into the hearts of the people nationalism and
divided the Ummah with their borders to prevent unity amongst the Muslims.
Regardless of time and place, it is upon every Muslim to avoid falsehood and the people of falsehood.
They are obligated to steer away from the Fitan as much as they can and must protect themselves,
their family and their religion from falsehood. Therefore, you must firmly hold onto the Quran and
Sunnah, and the way of the rightly gudied Khulafah (Khulafa al-Rashidun) with your molar teeth
wherever you find yourself.

The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said, “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible
for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the
guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s
home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the
property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is
responsible for his flock.”

─ [ Bukhaari & Muslim ]

The enemies of Islam have consistently plotted, schemed and conspired to divert Muslims from their
religion and weaken their adherence to it. By Allah, they did not welcome Muslims into their lands out
of affection, but rather to seize the future generations of Muslims and stray them from Islam. They
beautified their lands after stealing from our resources and wreaking havoc and corruption on Earth.
They are determined to spread harm, evil and discomfort to the Muslims, feeling sadness and anger
for any good that comes to us and rejoicing any hardship that befalls us. They even construct
Masaajids around the globe under the pretext of goodness but with the sole aim of misleading our
future generations, aiming to make their hearts hollow and lead them into the fire of misguidance.
They strive tirelessly to eliminate the laws of Allah and diminish their love for it, all under the guise of
freedom. In the lands of disbelief, the man lacks true authority over his family. Rebellion, disputes,
and quarrels frequently occur between a man and his family. If he doesn't meet their demands, the
non-believing police act as the arbiters. As a result, he witnesses the abomination and the indecency
within his family, yet feels powerless to intervene. The judges enforce unfair, unjust man-made laws,
while the police unjustly imprison and persecute rather than help. Children from Muslim families are
removed and placed with non-Muslim families for upbringing. They manipulate the minds of children,
strip women of their modesty, and remove the protective zeal from men, creating a society that is
destructive and lost.

The duty to implement Allah's laws and to migrate to lands where the Quran and Sunnah govern is
well established. It is obligatory to judge by the law of Allah and abandon what contradicts it.

So, we will discuss the ruling pertaining to those who are unable to make Hijrah and reside among the
non-Muslims, and their attitude during the festivities of the disbelievers.
The Prohibition of Joining Them
It is completely forbidden to participate in the festivities of the disbelievers. Whether it is through
direct involvement or seemingly innocuous acts like gift-giving, greeting or preparing festive meals
specific to that festival. Engaging in such actions is categorically impermissible and unjustifiable.

Simply professing "laa ilaha ilAllah" is insufficient to complete one’s faith; it must be coupled with
adherence to its legal orders and obligations. Embracing Islam means wholly submitting to Allah and
His divine laws. Just as darkness cannot coexist with light, goodness and malice cannot dwell together
within one's heart, nor can faith and disbelief. It is contradictory to proclaim belief in Allah and His
Oneness while simultaneously celebrating, rejoicing and/or participating in festivals rooted in Shirk
(associating partners with Allah). True faith requires renouncing and prohibiting the evil and
dissociating from those who embody it. Failing to fulfil these criteria renders one's Shahadah
(declaration of faith) incomplete and invalid, as it does not meet its essential conditions.

In the Quran, Allah declares that there is no compulsion in religion. Islam is plain and clear and its
proofs are plain and clear. Thus, adopting Islam requires complete certainty, submission and
acceptance of its principles without selective adherence based on personal preferences. Verily this is
the most trustworthy handhold. A fundamental aspect of belief in Allah is the concept of "Walaa and
Baraa". This means that one should love and disavow for Allah's sake – embracing what Allah
cherishes and rejecting what He disapproves of. Love all that which Allah loves and hate all that which
Allah hates. Essential to this belief is the denunciation of false deities (juggernaut) - anything followed,
worshipped or obeyed besides Allah, affirming Monotheism and devotion to Him alone. It’s a must
for your actions and intentions to reflect sincere loyalty and devotion to Allah. Tawheed is the
forbiddance of Shirk in all of its manifestations and to single out Allah alone for worship.

‫ُأ‬
‫َقْد َكاَنْت َلُكْم ْسَو ٌة َحَس َنٌۭة ِف ٓى ِإ ْبَٰر ِه يَم َو ٱَّلِذ يَن َمَع ُهٓۥ ِإ ْذ َقاُلو۟ا ِل َقْو ِم ِه ْم ِإَّنا ُبَر َٰٓءُؤ ۟ا ِم نُكْم َو ِم َّم ا َتْعُبُد وَن ِم ن ُد وِن ٱلَّلِه َكَفْر َنا ِبُكْم‬
‫َو َبَد ا َبْيَنَنا َو َبْيَنُكُم ٱْلَع َٰد َو ُة َو ٱْلَبْغ َض آُء َأَبًد ا َح َّتٰى ُتْؤ ِم ُنو۟ا ِبٱلَّلِه َوْح َد ُهٓۥ ِإ َّلا َقْو َل ِإ ْبَٰر ِه يَم ِلَأِبيِه َلَأْس َتْغ ِف َر َّن َلَك َوَمآ َأْم ِل ُك َلَك ِم َن ٱلَّلِه‬
‫ِم ن َش ْى ٍۢء ۖ َّر َّبَنا َع َلْيَك َتَو َّكْلَنا َو ِإ َلْيَك َأَنْبَنا َو ِإ َلْيَك ٱْلَم ِص ير‬

Allah Almighty said: “Indeed there has been an excellent example for you in Ibrahim (Abraham) and
those with him, when they said to their people: "Verily, we are free from you and whatever you
worship besides Allah: we have rejected you, and there has started between us and you
hostility and hatred forever until you believe in Allah Alone" - except the saying of Ibrahim
(Abraham) to his father: "Verily, I will ask forgiveness (from Allah) for you, but I have no power to
do anything for you before Allah." Our Lord! In You (Alone) we put our trust, and to You (Alone) we
turn in repentance, and to You (Alone) is (our) final Return.”

─ [ al-Mumtahanah: 4 ]

This verse is all about Walaa and Baraa. We reject and disavow ourselves from the disbelievers and
their ways, even if it is from our own fathers. Between us (Muslims) and them (the disbelievers) there
is hatred until they believe in Allah and the last day. There is no exception or compromise in the
religion. We say to them what our Lord has guided us to say, “For you is your religion and for me is
my religion!” We are not the same.
Imitation
It is obligatory upon every Muslim, male or female to abandon the disbelievers and their celebrations.

The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said, “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.”

─ [ Sunan Abi Dawood ]

The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, warned us against imitating the disbelievers and adorning
ourselves with their characteristics and mannerisms. So Muslims must beware of that and not aid in
the celebration of these holidays with anything. These are holidays that are against Allah and
established by His enemies, so if you cooperate and assist in them, you are also from them.

‫َو َتَع اَو ُنو۟ا َع َلى ٱْلِب ِّر َو ٱلَّتْق َو ٰى ۖ َو َلا َتَع اَو ُنو۟ا َع َلى ٱْلِإ ْثِم َو ٱْلُع ْد َٰو ِنۚ َو ٱَّتُقو۟ا ٱلَّلَه ۖ ِإ َّن ٱلَّلَه َش ِد يُد ٱْلِع َقاب‬

Allah Almighty said: “Help you one another in al-Birr and al-Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety);
but do not help one another in sin and transgression. And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is Severe in
punishment.”

─ [ Surat al-Ma’idah: 2 ]

So participating with the disbelievers in their holidays is a type of helping them with sin and
transgression. Hence, it is obligatory upon every Muslim male and female to abandon that and not let
others influence them as they wish to lead you astray just as they are astray. It is not befitting for the
one who has intellect to be deceived by the people in their actions. So stick to the commands of Allah
and His Messenger rather than focusing on the people and their behaviour, most of humanity is
heedless.

‫َو ِإ ن ُتِط ْع َأْكَثَر َمن ِف ى ٱْلَأْر ِض ُيِض ُّلوَك َع ن َس ِبيِل ٱلَّلِه ۚ ِإ ن َيَّتِب ُع وَن ِإ َّلا ٱلَّظ َّن َو ِإ ْن ُهْم ِإ َّلا َيْخ ُر ُص وَن‬
Allah Almighty said: “And if you obey most of those on the earth, they will mislead you far away from
Allah’s Path. They follow nothing but conjectures, and they do nothing but lie.”

─ [ Surat al-An’am: 116 ]

‫َوَمآ َأْكَثُر ٱلَّناِس َو َلْو َحَرْص َت ِب ُم ْؤ ِمِن يَن‬


Allah Almighty said: “And most of mankind will not believe even if you desire it eagerly.”

─ [ Surat Yusuf: 103 ]

It is the way of the believer to measure their actions and words with the Book of Allah and the
Sunnah of His Messenger, as understood by the Sahabah. That which coincides with them or one of
them, then it is accepted, even if the people have abandoned it. That which opposes them or one of
them, then it is rejected, even if the people do it.
Anas ibn Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, reported: “The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon
him, arrived in Medinah during two days which they were celebrating. The Prophet said, ‘What are
these two days?’ They said, ‘We would celebrate these two days in the time of ignorance.’ The Prophet
said, ‘Verily, Allah has replaced these two days with two better days: Eid al-Adha and Eid al-Fitr.’ ”

─ [ Sunan Abi Dawood ]

When the Prophet, peace be upon him, came to Medinah, he found (the Jews) fasting on the day of
Ashoora (i.e. 10th of Muharram). They used to say: ‘This is a great day on which Allah saved Moses
and drowned the people of Pharaoh. Moses observed the fast on this day, as a sign of gratitude to
Allah.’ The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, ‘We are more deserving and are closer to Moses than
you.’ So, he observed the fast (on that day) and ordered the Muslims to fast on it.

─ [ Bukhaari ]

The Prophet, peace be upon him, encouraged fasting one day before or one day after alongside the
day of Ashoora. He ensured that fasting on the day of Ashoora was implemented differently than that
of the practice of the Jews, to emphasise that Islam is different, it is the divine revelation of Allah sent
to Muhammad, above all, abrogating that which was before it.

A man approached the Prophet, peace be upon him, and mentioned that he had vowed to make a
sacrifice in a town called Bawaanah. The Prophet asked him two questions: First, he inquired if there
used to be any idol or statue worshipped there during the pre-Islamic period of ignorance (Jahiliyyah).
The man answered no. Then the Prophet asked if there was any holiday celebration or festival that
took place in that town. The man again responded no. Upon hearing this, the Prophet advised him to
fulfil his vow.

This Hadith teaches many lessons, amongst them is that in order to fulfil a vow in Islam it must not
involve anything that is Haram (impermissible). The inquiries made by the Prophet highlight the
importance of ensuring that one's actions, even when fulfilling a vow, do not associate with any form
of idolatry or non-Islamic practices. It underscores the principle of separating Islamic acts of worship
from any pre-Islamic or non-Islamic customs, ensuring that practices remain pure and solely for the
sake of Allah.
Greeting & Gifts
Just as we discussed the impermissibility of participating in or mimicking the festivals and traditions of
the non-believers in any way or form, we also emphasise the consensus on the prohibition against
using their greetings in their celebrations of Shirk (disbelief) and/or exchanging gifts with them for it.
This is a form of acceptance of their Shirk! With faith in your hearts, such days and festivities should
enrage you! Do you congratulate the murderer after killing an innocent man? Why and how do you
greet the one who has slandered the Most Generous, Most High, Allah Almighty?! Consider the anger
you would feel if someone insulted your mother; the intensity of that feeling should be even greater
for Allah, the Lord of the worlds. How much more should your heart be stirred when it comes to the
honour and respect due to the Almighty? The one who honoured you, clothed you, gave you all you
have and promised to forgive your sins (if you’re sincere) despite your transgressions. Their holiday is
Shirk, transgression, they are joining partners with Allah, when you greet them back or congratulate
them on their evil, you are just like them.

‫َو ٱَّلِذ يَن َلا َيْش َه ُد وَن ٱلُّز وَر َو ِإ َذا َمُّر و۟ا ِبٱلَّلْغِو َمُّر و۟ا ِك َر اًۭم ا‬

Allah Almighty said: “And those who do not bear witness to falsehood, and if they pass by some evil
play or evil talk, they pass by it with dignity.”

─ [ Surat al-Furqaan: 72 ]

This is from the characteristic of a Muslim. They do not bear witness to falsehood, including lies,
immorality, disbelief, foul speech, false words, etc. The Muslim does not bear witness to falsehood,
they do not attend it nor are they present when it happens. If it so happens that they pass by it, they
do not let it contaminate them in the slightest and they walk proudly and confidently with their faith,
seeking refuge in Allah from the evil. All praise be to Allah, free from all the evil and imperfections
they associate with Him.

Aboo Bakrah narrated: “The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said three times: ‘Shall I not tell
you of the greatest of major sins?’ We said, ‘Of course, O Messenger of Allah.’ The Messenger of
Allah said: ‘Associating others in worship with Allah and disobeying one's parents.’ He was lying
down, then he sat up and added: ‘Beware of false speech, and bearing witness to falsehood,’ and he
kept repeating it until we thought he wouldn’t stop.”

─ [ Bukhaari & Muslim ]

‫َو َقاُلو۟ا ٱَّتَخ َذ ٱلَّر ْحَم ٰـُن َو َلًۭد ا‬

Allah Almighty said: “And they say: ‘The Most Gracious (Allah) has begotten a son (or offspring or
children) [as the Jews say: ‘Uzair (Ezra) is the son of Allah, and the Christians say that He has
begotten a son [‘Isa (Jesus), and the pagan Arabs say that He has begotten daughters (angels and
others.)].’ ”

─ [ Surat Maryam: 88 ]
‫َّلَقْد ِج ْئُتْم َش ْئًـا ِإ ًّۭدا‬

‫َتَكاُد ٱلَّس َم ٰـَٰو ُت َيَتَفَّط ْر َن ِم ْنُه َو َتنَش ُّق ٱْلَأْر ُض َو َتِخ ُّر ٱْلِج َباُل َهًّد ا‬

‫َأن َدَع ْو ۟ا ِل لَّر ْحَم ٰـِن َو َلًۭد ا‬

Allah Almighty said: “Indeed you have brought forth (said) a terrible evil thing.
Whereby the heavens are almost torn, and the earth is split asunder, and the mountains fall in ruins.
That they ascribe a son (or offspring or children) to the Most Gracious (Allah).”

─ [ Surat Maryam: 89-91 ]

Allah has addressed these individuals and their wicked ways, expressing His displeasure with them.
The seriousness of their claims and actions is such that the Earth is on the brink of splitting apart.
How could you possibly join them in their acts of Shirk or even greet them as they engage in it? You
are just like them! This verse is truly astonishing! It should send shivers down your spine because it is
gravely serious, if only you truly comprehended.

It is not permissible for Muslims to participate in the holidays of the unbelievers. They are not to give
them gifts at the time of their holidays nor is it befitting to accept their gifts from them at the time of
their holidays. Nor is it permissible to greet them at the time of their holiday or sell them items which
specifically assist in their holiday celebrations (e.g., Christmas crackers); all of this is incorrect.
Engaging in any of this entails being pleased with the Kufr (disbelief) which they are upon.

Ibn al-Qayyim, may Allah be pleased with him, said: “As for congratulating the disbelievers for their
religious ceremonies that have disbelief attached to it, then it is not permissible according to the
consensus. For example, congratulating them for their holidays or their fasts, so the person says, “May
you have a blessed holiday”, or he wishes them well for their holiday or something like that. So, if the
one who says these statements escapes from falling into disbelief, it is still from the impermissible
things. And it is on the same level as congratulating them for prostrating to the cross. Rather it is a
greater sin with Allah. And it is a more severe abomination than to congratulate them for drinking
alcohol and killing someone, committing illegal sexual intercourse and things of this nature. And many
of the people who don’t have any religion or respect for the religion fall into this. And he doesn’t
know the wickedness of what he has done. So, whoever congratulates a person for committing sins, or
innovations, or disbelief, then he has exposed himself to the hate, wrath and anger of Allah.”

In conclusion, regardless of whether it's your neighbour, coworker, parent etc., you are not permitted
to greet them in their disbelief, nor are you permitted to join them in their festivities whether it be
gift-giving, dinner, decorations and so on. As for the one who participates in such evil, we say to him,
fear Allah wherever you are. Your Lord does not forget.
Q&A
Q. Does the prohibition on participating in the festivities of non-believers apply to
all their celebrations without exception? Is there any allowance to participate if we
hate it in our hearts? I live in a non-Muslim country where I’m often pressured to
join in a yearly tradition of exchanging gifts known as "Secret Santa." How should I
handle this situation? Additionally, my wife sometimes feels influenced by these
customs. Although she doesn't explicitly express it, I sense she gets upset when I
don't make a big deal about our anniversary or even on Valentine's Day. I would
greatly appreciate your advice on how to navigate this situation.

What you're describing isn't duress, and those truly under duress are required to migrate where
they can practise their religion freely. In your situation, there are no exceptions. You cannot
engage in these activities while claiming internal disapproval. We are not like the Murji’ah;
faith requires belief in the heart, utterance on the tongue, and actions aligned (on the limbs)—
all three must coexist. You must not participate in these events (regardless of whether it’s
dinner, exchanging gifts, greetings, or even providing them beverages such as coffee on their
holiday), and your Muslim identity and values should be clear.

As for feelings of being disrespectful, you are disrespecting the Almighty and they are
disrespecting you by asking you to join. There is no space for love in the hearts of the Muslims
for the sin of Shirk! Why do you find yourself so weak you cannot stand firmly upon your
religion of truth?! Do not make yourself a witness to the falsehood and evil for which you
failed to speak out against. Islam draws a firm line when it comes to matters of Shirk and
blasphemy against Allah. Shirk, or the act of associating partners with Allah, is the mightiest
sin. Slandering or speaking ill of Allah is a serious transgression. We cannot condone or
tolerate acts that undermine the core principles of Monotheism and the reverence due to
Allah. The Muslim should maintain respect for Allah's Oneness and honour without
compromise.

Regarding your household situation, this is a sickness in your wife’s heart, most often
stemming from external influences, such as social media or friends. To restore inner purity,
these root causes must be removed. The Muslim has a duty to marry a good and righteous
partner and encourage each other in goodness and piety after marriage. When you are
surrounded by evil, the evil will influence you too. So you must surround yourself with good
and shield yourself from the Fitan as much as possible, despite the difficulty in today's social
media-driven world. Aboo Darda, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “A righteous
companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good
writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer.”
Remember, there is no obedience to the creation when it is disobedience to the Creator.
Obedience is only in the commands of Allah and what aligns with it, whatever contradicts it
must be rejected. For example, while giving flowers and chocolates on Valentine's Day might
seem trivial, it is significant, as you have involved yourself in participating in the festivities of
the unbelievers. You do not need the unbelievers to guide you to please your spouse and treat
them well one day when the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, commanded it all year
round! You had 364 other days to buy her flowers, but you chose the day it's specific to the
celebration of the unbelievers. So if you find you’re not doing this, it reflects a shortcoming in
yourself. Similarly, preparing roast dinners or specific festive dishes on December 25th or
other holidays of the unbelievers, which are associated with non-Islamic celebrations, is
prohibited. There is no justification for doing so, as there are plenty of other days you can eat
these meals. Allah’s commands do not conflict with human intellect and logic, but the people
are misguided.

Approach your wife lovingly, make her understand, and make every day special for her. We
don’t need specific days to express love to our loved ones; we honour, respect and cherish
them all year. If your wife believes in Allah’s commands, she will find no conflict in her heart.
Loving the Quran means hating music; loving your Aqeedah means not compromising
because of your steadfastness. Similarly, if you love Allah and make Him the authority over
you, you'll find no hatred in aligning with His will. We ask Allah to grant us all Taqwa.

‫َفَلا َوَرِّبَك َلا ُيْؤ ِم ُنوَن َح َّتٰى ُيَح ِّكُم وَك ِف يَم ا َش َجَر َبْيَنُه ْم ُثَّم َلا َيِج ُد و۟ا ِف ٓى َأنُفِس ِه ْم َحَر ًۭج ا ِّمَّم ا َقَض ْيَت َوُيَس ِّلُم و۟ا َتْس ِل يًۭم ا‬

Allah Almighty said: “But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O
Muhammad SAW) judge in all disputes between them, and find in themselves no resistance
against your decisions, and accept (them) with full submission.”

─ [ Surat al-Nisa: 65 ]

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