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 MODULE 6:
HOW TO DATE MODELS:
A COMPLETE GUIDE
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Hey, it’s Mike Haines, and welcome back to Godlike Power: How To Attract,
Seduce and KEEP Your Perfect 10.
So you’ve made it to the final module, and I want to take this time to congratulate
you now for making it this far through the course.
OK. Let’s get onto the final piece of content the course.
And the topic of this module is RELATIONSHIPS.
We talked about how to attract “9s and 10s”, how to seduce them, and we got into
how to make a girl like this into your girlfriend.
And now I want to finish off this journey by talking about where you go from there
— how to maintain a relationship with a “Total 10”, and also how to make that
relationship fit the standard and specifications that YOU want, rather than
what society tells you you should want or what relationships are “supposed”
to look like.
So we’ll be getting into a lot of stuff in terms of, having a relationship with a
perfect 10 in which she adores you — both emotionally and sexually. How to
have it so she’s constantly horny for sex with you, even after many years of
being monogamous together.
I’ll also be talking about topics like having STEADY THREESOMES with your girl —
how to set up a frame from the start so that she LOVES doing threesomes with
you, and even brings you girls to have thressomes.

THE COMMON VIEW OF RELATIONSHIPS DISTORTED BY SOCIAL

CONDITIONING

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So the first point I want to get to with all this is that our view of relationships is
totally distorted by social conditioning.
So if what I’m saying here is shocking to you — such as the idea that you could be
in long term relationships with multiple women and they’d actually be cool with
it, where you’re sleeping with other girls but they’re faithful to you — well, that sort
of sounds like a crazy unrealistic male fantasy — but it’s actually very very real.
And in fact, in my opinion, we’re so brainwashed by the media to think that
women are in control and men are these little worms who have beg for sex
from their girlfriend…
Well, our heads get so stuffed with that kind of garbage that we actually believe
that’s how it has to be, and that that’s the “standard” for what a “real relationship”
looks like or has to eventually turn into.
Another example is the question of sex.
It’s sort of this assumed, implicit frame in the mainstream that women have
sex with their man all the time to get him in a relationship, but once she’s
certain she has him, then she turns off the faucet, and no longer gives him
sex.
And so you have this idea that, all “real” couples have sex once a month or
something, because men are always horny but women have a low sex drive and
will constantly deny the man sex.

ABNORMAL BEHAVIOR HAS BECOME NORMALIZED AS THE CULTURAL

STANDARD
Again, this is a great example in my opinion, of how ABNORMAL BEHAVIOR
gets normalized as being the cultural standard.
Because the reality is, no self-respecting man stays in a relationship with a
woman who’s denying him sex — not for longer than a few weeks, anyway.
Doesn’t happen.
Beta males will stay in relationships with women who deny them sex. Men
don’t do that.
The problem is we take our view of reality and of relationships from the culture
around us. And in most cases, the people who form culture are BETA MALES.
A perfect example being TV shows and movies. Well, on the whole, who writes TV
shows — sitcoms and that sort of thing? I would say that, in the main, the writers
of these shows are beta males.

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Now, no offense if you’re a sitcom writer, I’m not saying it automatically makes you
a beta male — that’s not the case. I’m just saying that the vast majority of sitcom
writers happen to be beta males.
And so the world they write about is the world they understand — the world of
the beta male. The experiences of the beta male. The life of the beta male.
Their view of what women are is the beta male view — informed by beta male
experiences and beta male beliefs.
And unfortunately, because human beings are extremely vulnerable to the
influence of mass media, this “beta male worldview” then becomes projected
on the culture at large and starts to infect even those men who aren’t beta
males.
And so you get into a situation where even masculine men — like U.S. marines and
business executives, and so on — even these guys will start acting out the beta
male script they’ve been programmed with by social conditioning.
And if their wife or girlfriend stops giving them sex, not only will they stay with her
— but they’ll actually think that’s NORMAL. “Duuhhh, dat’s just the way it goes I
guess. Huhuh.”
No. No, no, no.
It’s not normal and it’s not acceptable behavior.
If you’re in a relationship with a woman and she starts denying you sex, you walk
away.
It’s not normal. It’s abnormal for that to happen.
If a woman is denying you sex, it means she’s no longer attracted to you.
And if she’s no attracted to you, then it’s in NO ONE’S best interest for you to
still be together.
You should be with a girl who is head over heels in love with you and wants to
fuck you every day.
And SHE should be with a man who makes her feel that way.
Staying with a woman under those conditions is not good for ANYONE.
The best thing you can do is to pull the bandage off and leave. That’s what a
normal, self-respecting man does if his no girl no longer wants to have sex with
him.
And of course, simply by doing that, what happens 99% of the time is that the very
fact that you showed her you have some BACKBONE and were WILLING TO

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WALK AWAY if the relationship was no longer meeting your standards — that
actually MAKES HER ATTRACTED to you again, and a normal sex life resumes.
So our view of relationships is poisoned and corrupted by bad social conditioning.

THE MYTH OF “MONOGAMY” AS BEING APPROPRIATE FOR EVERY MAN

Here’s another big myth that really fucks up people’s relationships: the myth of
monogamy.
Now, this is a complex issue.
I used to be pretty radical about monogamy being always inherently bad. I’m not
anymore.
In fact, I’ve been in a long term monogamous relationship for the past 3 years —
and it’s been very, very good to me in a lot of ways.
Monogamy can be good for many reasons — the primary one being that if you
can have great sex and satisfying intimacy with a woman regularly without
having to go out and do game all the time, your life becomes a lot more
stable, and it really allows you to focus all your energies into, say, building a
business.
But, the idea that monogamy is or should be the “gold standard” for
relationships, is in my opinion very harmful.
My own view is actually the opposite.
My view is:

MONOGAMY CONTAINS THE SEEDS OF ITS OWN DESTRUCTION

The paradox is, that the only way to sustain a truly monogamous relationship,
and have it be good for both people, is to realize that monogamy itself
actually has fatal flaws that make it almost inevitably self-destructing.
Monogamy is inherently unstable.
Monogamy, as a system, is inherently unstable.
And I’ll tell you what I mean by that.
It happens in a cycle.
It starts in phase #1: You’re a cool, badass alpha male who sleeps with new
girls on a regular basis. Because of this, women are very attracted to you.

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In Phase #2, you meet a girl you find really attractive. And because you’re a
cool guy who’s popular with women, she’s attracted to you. You start dating.
Phase #3: relationship bliss. You’re a hot guy, she’s a hot girl, you have sex
constantly, and you’re both crazy about each other. Everything’s going great.
Phase #4: after a few months or a year, the relationship inevitably starts to
become stagnant. Where before, you spent your weekends going out,
approaching girls, meeting new people, fucking around with your buddies —
now you spend your weekends watching Netflix and ordering takeout with
your girlfriend.
Aristotle said that “we are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is a
habit.”
Well, much as Aristotle would have predicted, the fact that you’re no longer
behaving like an alpha male — e.g. socializing regularly, approaching girls,
meeting new people — means that gradually stop being an alpha male.
You’re no longer as funny, no longer as charming and dominant. You start speaking
more softly, and not looking people in the eye as much.
Why? Because, well, when you were single, if you went out to a club, what
happened if you spoke softly and didn’t look people in the eye? Bang.
REJECTION. PAIN.
And you were constantly forced by the ruthlessness of female mate choice to
correct your behavior.
But now, you’ve got a girl who gives you sex no matter what.
And because she’s become bonded to you with oxytocin and other hormones, she
doesn’t need you to be a pure alpha in order to sleep with you. Having sex is just
kind of a habit which you guys have fallen into.
Maybe you’ve even stopped lifting weights or taking care of the food you eat,
because knowing you can get laid means you’re not as motivated to look sharp.
And MAYBE you’re even with a girl who ENCOURAGES you not to go to the gym,
by saying she loves your beer belly. (As crazy as that sounds, I’ve heard of girls like
that.)

THE INEVITABLE SLIDE INTO BETA MALE BEHAVIOUR

So what happens?
Well, you inevitably slide back down into being a BETA MALE.

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And then, slowly but surely, you enter phase #5: Your girl starts losing attraction
to you.
This phase is typically marked by the woman losing interest in sex, denying
her man sex, or in some cases, having sex but doing so unenthusiastically
and clearly not being into it.
Now where this gets really toxic is that the very fact that you’ve been in a
relationship for so long means that you can’t get other girls even if you
wanted to.
Having good game is largely a matter of REFLEXES.
If you’re not doing it regularly, you lose the ability to do it. It atrophies.
And generally speaking, if you used to have tight game, and then you go a few
months without doing game at all — to get back to the level you were at is NO
PICNIC.
Probably the fastest way to accomplish it would be a process of total immersion —
where you go out and cold approach constantly at least 3 nights a week, every
week.
And then probably within about a month, you’d be back to your old form.
But the problem is that by now desperation has set in. And the guy thinks that
this girl is the only girl he’s going to be able to get, and he just can’t face the
rejection and the struggle he’d have to go through to replace her.
And because he’s desperate and can’t get anyone else (or at least he thinks he
can’t), the girl loses attraction even more.
And then things can start to get REALLY BAD.
Because what often happens now, is that the girl is going to start becoming very
troubled by the fact that’s she no longer attracted to this guy.
And, when they do have sex, she barely ever cums.
This is where it can happen that, if she happens to be around an attractive guy —
say when she’s out with her friends, or even someone she works with — well,
things can happen, right?
She’s sexually frustrated, he has good game, and before she really knows what’s
happening she’s down on her knees sucking his dick.
And then from there, things can get even MORE TOXIC. Believe it or not, it can
actually get even WORSE.

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Because the girl still LOVES her boyfriend — even though she’s not as sexually
attracted.
So the fact that she LOVES this guy, yet cheated on him, causes her to go into
something called cognitive dissonance.

COGNITIVE DISSONANCE
And cognitive dissonance is a name for the psychological pain and discomfort
that arises from holding two contradictory beliefs — e.g. “I love my boyfriend
— we’re soulamtes” and “I just got fucked raw by some other guy who I don’t
even like”
And these two beliefs don’t work together. She can’t hold both of these beliefs
in her head without serious psychological discomfort. And so what happens,
many is that she will change one of these beliefs in order to make it congruent
with the other one.
One way this can happen is that she will COMPLETELY BLANK OUT the fact that
she cheated. It will literally be ERASED from her memory banks.
Another way this can happen is that she can rationalize it away by thinking, “Well,
we were fighting at that time. And so we were basically broken up.” Even though
that might not be the case at all.
But more common — and even more poisonous — is where, in order to get rid of
the dissonance between the fact that she does love her boyfriend yet she
cheated on him — she will create insane, false narratives about him in her
head, and how he’s actually a nasty guy and mistreated.
And it can get really fucking crazy.
This is one of the ways that false rape accusations can happen.
You’ve got some girl who’s dating a guy for years, and maybe one time they’re
wrestling on the bed and it turns into sex — and she doesn’t say no, or really resist
him, but maybe she puts up some token resistance. But at the same time it’s clear
that she’s into it, and she’s horny, and once they do start having sex, she’s fully
participating in it.
Well, at some time later she cheats on him. And maybe, that causes her to have to
subconsciously find a rationale for why she did that.
And as part of finding that rationale, she’ll go into her head and she’ll search for all
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because she’s motivated to do so by a need to reduce her feeling of guilt and
shame.
And maybe then she’ll look back on that time they wrestling on the bed and then
had sex, and she’ll have a good motivation to remember it in different way — that
it was actually RAPE.
And even though she was happily with him for MONTHS after that incident, she’ll
then use that as the cornerstone to build a narrative in her head that he was
actually ABUSIVE to her in all these different ways — verbally, physically, sexually.
She’ll think about little isolated incidents, and frame them as abuse. And what will
happen is — because we now know scientifically speaking that human memory is
much more unstable than most people realize — her memories of him will actually
CHANGE. And she will actually have REAL memories of being abused — even
though it didn’t.
And when she asks herself, “well, if this true, why did I stay with him?” then she’ll
start to think, “Maybe I just wasn’t able to accept that I was being abused. And
maybe all those good memories are actually false. And maybe I was actually being
abused by him psychologically for so long, that I actually was brainwashed into
thinking he was good when he was really bad. And maybe I should get my revenge
on him. Maybe the way to empower myself now, so that I can be confident in the
future, is to destroy this man, and to destroy his life, so he’ll never do this to
someone else again.”
And this HAPPENS.
This is not a joke.
This HAPPENS to people.

And I’m not saying that every woman who say she was abused or raped is making
it up. That’s obviously not true. And if you’re focusing on that, you’re not getting
the point of what I’m really trying to get across here.
And that is that when you’re a monogamous relationship, and she starts to
lose attraction to you, things can start to get ugly real fast — if you don’t
know how to correct course.
And if you’re not prepared for it — if you haven’t fortified yourself with real
understanding of how to manage relationships — you can find yourself living
in a nightmare.
And any guys watching this who have gone through nasty divorces will really be
able to open your eyes on this one.

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So, monogamy contains the seeds of its own destruction.
Does that mean monogamy’s bad? No.
Does that mean you shouldn’t want a monogamous relationship? No.
But it does mean, that in order to sustain one, you must be aware of this dynamic,
and you must have strategies in place to reverse it if — and when — it starts to
happen.

Turbulence Theory
I’m now going to talk about a very important concept which most guys don’t get
— and it can poison their long term relationships with women.
Speaking in general terms, as a man, once you’ve got a sexy girlfriend who loves
you, you’re pretty damn happy. From there, you pretty much only want two things:
(1) you want to have a lot of sex, or at least much to get your needs met so you’re
not frustrated, (2) you want peace and calm.
I think it’s fair to say that as men, we want our relationship with our girlfriend or
wife to be like a calm port in a storm. So you can to work, and you can work
yourself to the bone, deal with complex issues, problem solve, and deal with all the
drama and bullshit that comes from pursuing your career — and then when you
get home, your girl is like a RELEASE from that.
She’s a calming influence. A relaxing influence. Maybe she makes you a home
cooked dinner and then sucks your dick. Or maybe you have sex and then watch a
movie. And it’s just nice. It’s relaxing. It’s a release from your everyday frustrations
and tension and stress.
So as men, we want our relationships to be CALM.
THIS IS NOT WHAT WOMEN WANT.
Ok? Very important distinction between men and women.
Women don’t want calm in relationships — at least not all the time. Women
need something I call TURBULENCE.
What is turbulence?
Essentially, turbulence is any kind of friction or emotional drama between you
and your girl.
An argument is an example of turbulence.

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Her pissing you off, and then you leaving and going off somewhere without telling
her where — and her fearing that you could be out partying with other girls. That’s
an example of turbulence, or drama.
This is very counterintuitive — but women actually need a certain amount of
turbulence and drama in a relationship in order to appreciate, enjoy it, and
feel satisfied with it.
Now, what’s important to understand is that the amount of turbulence a woman
needs to appreciate the relationship can vary dramatically depending on the
girl.
Some girls need more drama. Others need way less.
You’ll very often see a pattern that really hot girls who had a bad relationship with
their father — as is the case with a lot of strippers, for example — need a LOT of
turbulence in the relationship.
And if you don’t provide that drama to them, they will often lose interest fast.
Now with other girls — generally ones who have a good relationship with their
father — these women need a lot less turbulence or drama.
And you give them too much, it’s kind of like giving them an overdose and it’s just
going to overwhelm and ultimately won’t be good.

SHOULD YOU ONLY DATE “LOW DRAMA GIRLS”?

I’ll talk more in a second about how to determine how much turbulence a girl
needs, but before I do that, I just want to make a quick point here.
And that is, many guys here will say, “well I don’t want some slutty stripper who’s
addicted to drama — she’s obviously a ‘bad quality’ woman. I just want a good girl
who doesn’t need any drama.”
And that’s absolutely valid. Particularly if this girl you want a long term relationship,
and especially if you’re thinking of settling down and having kids — in that
case, yes, you 100% want to screen for low drama girls, i.e. women who have
a lower appetite for turbulence.
But that being said — all women need some turbulence — even the good
girls, and yes, even the hot nerdy girls you meet at library.
All women need turbulence in relationships — it’s universal. The only
difference is in the degree of turbulence they need.

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TURBULENCE, FRICTION AND AROUSAL
And this is because turbulence and arousal are very deeply connected.
If you remember, in Module 2, when we talked about how to approach women and
have them immediately become aroused and attracted within the first several
minutes — I introduced you to a concept called ‘creating friction’, or ‘creating
polarity’.
And I said that the essence of female arousal comes from ‘friction’ — which is
the idea that you have to be going against the girl in some way.
Whether that’s using negs, push/pull, a challenging type of vibe, or creating sexual
tension with your eye contact and body language.
And the reason friction — going ‘against the girl’ — works, is because opposites
attract. If the girl has a feminine energy (which she does) then you need to project
the opposite of that — which is a masculine energy.
And the girl has a really feminine energy — if she’s very deep in her femininity, like
if she’s, for example, an exotic dancer who spends a lot of time exhibiting herself
for men and is extremely in touch with her sensuality and sexual nature — well, in
that case, one of the best ways to arouse girls like that is to go very, very strong in
the opposite direction — in the form “strong negging”, strong push/pulls and what
I call “verbal spanking” or “verbal sparring”.
In other words, the more feminine the girl, the more dominance you want to project
— not always, there are exceptions in life, but that is a general heuristic which I’ve
found very useful in getting 9s and 10s, particularly in competitive environments
like clubs and bars.
OK. Well. ‘turbulence’ is kind of the same idea as ‘friction’ — the only
difference is that this is ‘friction’ that you create within a relationship with a
girl, rather than as an aspect of seduction before that relationship develops.
Both friction and turbulence are fundamentally rooted int the fact that women
need to feel strong emotions to be aroused — and as a general rule, the hotter
the girl and more jaded and blase she’s become as a result, the stronger the
emotions you need to make her feel are.

USING TURBULENCE IN RELATIONSHIPS IS NOT THE SAME AS USING

FRICTION TO PICK UP GIRLS
So how do you use ‘turbulence’ to create arousals in relationships?

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Well, the first thing to note here, is that many of the techniques that work best to
create arousal in the initial seduction will backfire on you in a relationship.
And likewise, the reverse is also true. The techniques that work best to create
arousal in a relationship will not work in the initial seduction.
So an example of this would be negging.
Very often, if I’m talking to girls in bars, I will ‘neg’ them very hard. Ultimately I’m
doing it in a funny way and the girl can pick up on that from my body language and
demeanor — and so she laughs and becomes attracted rather than being
offended.
But that being said, if you actually broke down what I’m saying to her and simply
read it in text without seeing the body language and subcommunications — you
could interpret it as being really nasty.
Like I might make fun of the girl for being ‘old’ (even if she’s younger than me), and
say something like “You’re too fuckin old to be here. Go home grandma.”
Now, obviously the humor is in how ridiculous it is to say this to a girl who’s only
22 or something — and is younger than me.
And because all my subcommunications are on point, the girl will usually laugh her
fucking head off when I say something like that, and within a few minutes we’ll be
making out.
Yet, let’s say I hooked up with that girl, and then we got in a relationship. And let’s
say we’ve been together for a few months, and we’re hanging out, having a drink,
fucking around.
Well, if I used a line like that on her now — even if only in jest — that would
actually be going too far.
It would probably cause her to get mad, upset, and I’d end up having to spend the
next 2 hours trying to convince her that I don’t really think she looks old.
Now, this is NOT to say you shouldn’t TEASE a girl you’re in a relationship with.
You definitely should, and it’s a great way to continually inject some fun and
cheekiness and a little bit of challenge into your conversations with her.
The difference is that you want to calibrate how STRONG you go with teasing
— and with friction and turbulence in general — based on the woman’s level
of INVESTMENT.
We talked about investment last month.

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But just to refresh your memory — it basically just refers to how far along in a
relationship you are with her, and how much she feels like she has “invested” in
that relationship with you.
Easy example: a girl you meet in a club has ZERO investment in you.
A girl you’ve been sleeping with for 4 weeks has a HIGH level of investment in
you.
And a woman you’ve been seeing exclusively for several years has the
highest level of investment.
So the strength of the teasing, friction, push/pulls etc that you need to apply in
each case by her level of investment.
If she has little or no investment, you want to go STRONG with your teasing
and friction.
If she has higher investment, you don’t need to go as strong, because even a
lighter, more jokey banter will still elicit strong emotions.

TEASING IN A RELATIONSHIP
So for example, if I’m hanging out with my girlfriend, who’s super hot but who I’ve
been with for years, I don’t have to tease her or ‘neg’ super hard or anything like
that.
I can just make light little flirty banter about how I’m so hot and she’s so lucky to
be with such a hot guy — and she’ll be laughing and punching me on the arm in
mock outrage.
But if I didn’t know her — and I was just meeting her in a club for the first time —
then that level of cockiness and friction wouldn’t be enough to elicit that reaction
from her, because she has no investment, and so I’d need to crank it up and be
more polarizing, more challenging, maybe crank up a bit more of the shock humor
and “verbal spanking” types of lines.

TURBULENCE ISN’T NECESSARILY A CONFRONTATION — IT’S ANYTHING

THAT ELICIT A STRONG EMOTIONAL RESPONSE (USUALLY NEGATIVE
INITIALLY)
OK, so back to the concept of keeping your woman aroused by you in a long term
relationship, using turbulence.

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Now, I’ve said that turbulence refers to any kind of argument, fighting, drama, or
even just playful teasing that you.
But it’s important to turbulence isn’t necessarily confrontational — sometimes
you’ll create turbulence without even realizing you’re doing it.
I’ll give you a really good example here.
When I first started dating my current girlfriend, I had this really shit phone. (I held
out against getting a smartphone longer than anyone else I know). So I had this
shitty phone, which basically didn’t even work but which I refused to replace.
And one of the characteristics of this shitty phone was that sometimes people
would send me texts, and I wouldn’t receive them.
And I remember I was on vacation, and I looked at my phone, and I saw I had
something like 33 new texts from my girlfriend. And I was like “that’s… fucking
weird”.
So I open the messages, and they’re all saying stuff like “how you want to come
over to my place tonight?” “what are you doing this weekend, let’s get lunch?” And
a lot of them were really funny like she’d send something “why don’t you ever write
back to” (tear face)
And what I realized was that over the course of several weeks, she had been
sending me texts that I wasn’t receiving. And because my phone was such a shit
brick, for some reason half her texts weren’t even getting through to me.
But the funny thing about that was — the fact that SHE thought I was ignoring her
texts actually had the effect of making her really really aroused and obsessed with
me throughout that whole time we were dating.
It was like my phone was actually gaming this girl FOR ME!

HOW IGNORING WOMEN CAN MAKE THEM AROUSED

And you might be thinking, “well, how could simply ignoring her make her more
aroused?”
And it’s a good question.
Well, if you think about it from her perspective … She’s dating this guy. And
sometimes it seems like he’s totally into her. He texts her funny shit, he brings her
out on dates, he fucks the shit out of her.
But other times, he seems to go completely silent for days or even weeks on end.
She texts him — he doesn’t text back. She texts him even more — asking “why
aren’t you texting back? What’s wrong?” He’s silent.

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She starts freaking out, panicking. “Has he met someone else? Has he found a
hotter girl than me? I invited him asking him if he wants to have sex tonight directly
and he didn’t even respond — what the hell am I doing wrong?! How can I get him
to like me!! I just want him to like me!!!!”
And just when she’s at maximum internal chaos — suddenly, she gets a text from,
acting as if nothing even happened, being like “hey come over” (smiley face)
Now — just try to put yourself in her shoes here. Can you imagine how HAPPY she
must feel in that moment that she finally got that text from him? Can you imagine
the EUPHORIA she’s feeling her body after days of panicking and having anxiety
attacks that she’s lost this guy?
And now think of how, she texts back immediately saying yes, she spends 3 hours
getting ready, putting on her hottest outfit and making herself look like an absolute
stunner, goes over to his place, he fucks her like a wild animal — she cums over
and over again — and afterwards she’s laying there, panting, smiling like a little
idiot, in absolute BLISS.
And that ENTIRE emotional journey — that EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER that
she’s just been on — what caused it?
Simply the fact that my dumb phone wasn’t receiving half her texts — and so I was
ignoring her a lot of the time without even knowing it!
Well, that’s the principle of turbulence.
Women need to be on an emotional rollercoaster — not all the time, but at
least some of the time.
It’s what keeps them engaged, stimulated, aroused.
The highs are high, and the lows are low. And both sides are necessary for arousal.
Both sides are necessary to keep a girl hooked.

IF YOU DON’T CREATE TURBULENCE, SHE WILL

Now, the interesting that about emotional turbulence and drama — what you’ll find
is that if you don’t provide it to the girl, she’ll find some way of getting it.
Women need drama and they will get it — one way or another.
The question: will you proactively give them the drama they periodically need in
order to maintain a consistent level of attraction to you?
Or will you bitch out, become passive in the relationship, pay no attention to her
occasional need for drama?

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Well, if you don’t give your women drama — she will create it in order to get
her fix.
And she will create it in ways that are bad the good relationship, such as
constantly nagging you, starting fights with you over nothing, and generally
being an argumentative little brat.
When you’re conscious of women’s need for turbulence, it allows you to pre-
empt this process and stop negativity and fighting and bullshit arguments
before they arise.
It also allows you to keep your woman sexually hooked on you.

TURBULENCE AND FEMALE LIBIDO

It’s worth mentioning that women’s need for occasional relationship turbulence
is deeply connected to their sex drive.
An easy way to prove this to yourself is, go a week or so without responding to
your girlfriend’s texts at all.
You’ll find that the longer you do this, the more desperate and panicky her texts to
you as she tries to figure out why you’re not texting her back. Almost inevitably
she’ll start to fear you might be seeing someone else.
But then after a week, text her, and tell her to come over to your place.
Now, I guarantee, two things will happen when she does:
(1) She will be way more affectionate physically
(2) Her sex drive will be demonstrably higher
When you start fucking her, you may notice that her pussy is wet almost
immediately without any foreplay — and that as you start having sex, she
cums sooner and possibly has multiple orgasms.
It’s a very strange thing but it’s almost universally true among girls — emotional
drama creates wet panties.
And it would be really really dumb to try to pretend that’s not the case.
It’s demonstrably true, regardless of whether or not people are willing to admit it.

DON’T CREATE TURBULENCE UNTIL YOU START TO GET SIGNALS THAT

IT’S NECESSARY
So how do you create emotional turbulence?

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Well, I would say, one of the key principles that I use — is that I won’t create
turbulence with my girl until it’s necessary to do so.
So for example, if our relationship is going great — if we’re having tons of sex,
she’s having tons of orgasms, we’re laughing and joking around 24/7 — well,
that’s NOT the time that I’ll create emotional turbulence.
Because it’s not necessary.
Clearly, whatever’s happening in her life or with me, something’s going right — and
she’s maxed out on her arousal and attraction.
So for me to start ignoring her texts or something at this point would be overkill —
there’s largely no reason to.
Now, on the other hand, if I start to get signals that she’s losing attraction, then
it becomes a very different story — and I’ll quickly become aware that I need
to calibrate, be more aloof, be a little bit more of a dickhead, and in this way,
regain the balance in the relationship, and get her re-attracted.
And I call this principle “auto calibration”.
And that’s because really, to tell you truth, in relationships — I don’t apply my
“theories” or my “techniques” or anything like that to my girl.
All I do is I PAY ATTENTION TO HER BEHAVIOR.
And then depending on her behavior, I get a sense of where she’s at
emotionally — where she’s at in her attraction to me — and then I modify my
own behavior to respond appropriately.
And this more than anything, by the way, is the secret of how I’ve basically NEVER
BEEN BROKEN UP WITH BY A GIRL.
I was sort of dumped by first ever girlfriend when I was around 18 or 19 — but I
wound up getting her back pretty quickly after that and we then dated on and off
for the next 2 years or so.
But since that time, I’ve literally never been broken up with or cheated on by a girl.
And I’m not saying that to brag.
I’m just saying that it will help you understand how profoundly powerful this
principle of “auto calibration” is.
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ATTRACTION WILL ALWAYS BE FLUCTUATING TO SOME EXTENT
The way you want to think about is that in a long term relationship — by which I
mean a serious relationship that lasts for years, not just a fling — in a real
relationship, your level of attraction to your girl is always going to going up
and down in a curvy line.
And her level of attraction for you is always going to be going up or down.
Attraction never remains exactly stable.
But what you want to aim for — and I’ve found it’s totally possible — is where the
longer you’re together, even though the attraction level is fluctuating, it’s always
going in a generally upward motion (“up and to the right” as the stock market
guys say).
And that is 100% possible. I’m about 10 time more attracted to my girlfriend now
— who’s in her late twenties — than I was when I met her and she was 22.
She’s actually gotten HOTTER as she got older — better body, better at doing her
makeup, better dressed, etc.
And likewise, the very fact that she’s gotten HOTTER the longer she’s been with
me — instead of letting herself go — is evidence in itself that I was able to not only
keep her attracted to me, but even increase her attraction over time.
And of course, even after nearly 5 years together we still have sex constantly just
as much as we did in our first month of knowing each other.
So these things are 100% achievable.
And the secret is “turbulence” and “auto calibration”.
So, the way you want to look at it is this.

AUTO CALIBRATING THE LEVELS OF TURBULENCE

When things are going good, and she’s extremely ATTRACTED to you —
there’s no need to create turbulence, drama or anything like that.
When things start to go bad, and she starts to LOSE ATTRACTION to you —
that’s when you need to start creating some turbulence.
And you do that, in general, by just being a bit fucking ALOOF — to be the honest
with you. That’s kind of all it comes down to.
Don’t respond to her texts for a few days on end. Cancel plans with her and
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If she starts a fight with her, don’t try to resolve it.
Just take a deep breathe, and say, “ok.”
Let her go. Then don’t text her to try to make up. And if you do this, and you
hold your frame, eventually she’ll crack and start texting you trying to make
things right.

Develop a ‘spidey sense’ for when she’s losing attraction

This is the key.
You have to be so fine tuned with this that you know what she’s feeling before
she’s even consciously aware of it.
Key indicators that your girlfriend is highly attracted to you: she initiates sex,
she gives you a lot of physical affection without being prompted to do so, she
texts you a lot and makes plans on her own initiative, she gives you little gifts,
makes you dinner and does various little favors for you.

Key indicators that your girlfriend is losing attraction to you:

(1) she doesn’t ever initiate sex with you any more. Generally women are
passive and like it when you make the move to have sex. But I would say
in a really healthy thriving relationship, she should be so horny for you that
she’s initiating sex at least 10-20% of the time if not more. If she’s not
doing that, it’s usually a sign something’s off.
(2) when you initiate sex with her she’s hesitant, unenthusiastic or resistant.
Bad, bad, sign. Particularly if she behaves that way often when you try to
have sex with her.
(3) she outright denies you sex on a regular basis. Ok — here’s where we
start getting into serious territory. If your girl is denying on a regular basis,
you need to seriously reorient thing BIG TIME — and you better do so
FAST. This is where you’d want to getting very aloof — not texting her or
responding to her texts for even a week or two for example.
(4) she starts fights with you, nags you, behaves in a combative,
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Now, you’ll notice almost ALL of these are related to sex. And that’s not a
coincidence.
And it’s definitely not to say that you know, your girlfriend is supposed to be some
sort of slave for you who is obligated to give you sex whenever you sex whenever
you want.
That’s absolutely NOT the point of this at all. So don’t misinterpret.
The reason I put a big emphasis on sex is that a woman’s sex drive for you is
THE metric by which you can gauge her level of attraction.
No other metric even compares.
Now, look, it’s important to mention here that are REASONS why women’s sex
drive will become temporarily lowered at times which have NOTHING TO DO WITH
YOU.
We all have hormonal cycles which make us either hornier or less horny depending
on what phase we’re in — as well as things like dietary changes, amount of
exercise, medications, mental health issues and other things.

So I’m not saying, that just because your girlfriend is going through a few weeks
where she’s not really horny for you does NOT necessarily mean that she’s lost
attraction to you.
Because there are other reasons for why her sex drive might be fluctuating.
HOWEVER.
I have found that by ACTING as if her sex drive is purely a measure of her level of
attraction to me — I’m able to return it to its former high within a short period of
time.
And that happens EVERY TIME.
So there is definitely something to this idea that her sex drive is the most accurate
metric of her attraction level.
Ok, so you develop a spidey sense for when she’s losing attraction.
And it’s mainly based on: she’s not as physically affectionate as usual, she’s
more argumentative and hostile, and she’s not as horny
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STRATEGIC WITHDRAWAL OF AFFECTION is the principle you want to
master.
Strategic withdrawal of affection.
The idea is that in every man-woman relationship, the woman has some level
of affection (as well as attention) which she’s become accustomed to getting
from the man.
And this will be different for different couples, but in general it’s going to be stuff
like the fact that you hug her, kiss her, put your arm around her when you’re
out in public or chilling at home watching Netflix.
And it’s also going to be more subtle stuff like how often you respond to her
texts, and how quickly you write back when you do.
When your girl starts treating you poorly, you withdraw affection.
Very simple principle.
The worse she treats you, the more aloof you want to be.
It turns out women are very finely tuned to any negative change in the level of
affection and attention which they’ve become habituated to getting from their
man.
And so when you start withdrawing affection — physically and emotionally — you’ll
find that it really doesn’t take long for the girl to realize “hey, there’s a problem
here”, and to start freaking out and asking you what’s wrong.

Now, here’s a key thing.

Don’t ever verbalize the fact that you’re doing this.
If you withdraw affection, and she starts freaking out and asking what’s
wrong, you say “nothing”.
Don’t get into it with her. It’s very important for her to go into her own mind and try
to put the pieces together.
This is actually critical to the whole process.
I’ll give you an example.
Let’s say your girlfriend has started denying you sex. And it’s become common
for you to try to initiate sex, but for her to make excuses about how she’s too tired,
feels bloated, etc.
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Don’t touch her in an affectionate way as much, or at all.
Don’t give her any compliments. Don’t say she looks hot, or cute in that outfit,
or sexy in that position. Don’t express any aspects of your sexuality to her at
all.
Treat her exactly like you would treat one of your male friends.
That’s the key. Because listening to this, you might think I’m advocating acting
cold or hostile. And that’s not the vibe you want to be coming from with this at all.
You want to be FRIENDLY to her. That’s the key. FRIENDLY.
You treat her like you would one of your male friends. You know, you talk to him
to casually, you share some laughs — but you wouldn’t put your arm around
him at a movie, or tell him his ass looks good in those jeans or something.
Well THAT’S how you want to treat your girl when she starts withdrawing sex.
You put her in the FRIEND ZONE.
And this is really funny, because this drives girls fucking NUTS like you wouldn’t
believe!
See, it’s very common in a relationship — particularly one that’s gone for a long
time — for the girl to sort of start regarding you as a “sex pest”.
You’re constantly telling her she looks hot, you’re constantly trying to jump on her
and have sex when she’s trying to put her clothes on the morning.
And all that’s GOOD.
If you’re a healthy guy with high testosterone and a healthy sex drive, that’s how
you SHOULD be acting towards your goal.
But what happens though, is that obviously, after a while of this, the girl can
inevitably start to develop a mind of “mock irritated frame” of being like “get off
me, you’re such a perv,” “oh stop being such a creeper” and so on.
And again — that’s FINE. It’s totally normal for her to have that response
sometimes. As long as it doesn’t get out of balance to the point where she’s
NEVER horny and actually DOES get repulsed by your sexuality — which is
obviously a very toxic type of relationship to be in which you should cut off
immediately.
Or at least extreme measures.

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GETTING HER TO APPRECIATE YOUR AFFECTIONS AND SEXUAL
ATTENTION
So the beauty of strategic withdrawal of affection is — when you actually STOP
being a sex pest, you stop complimenting the girl on her looks, you stop telling
her she looks sexy today, you stop touching her or displaying affection…
Well, what starts to happen is she starts to realize, “Hey, I kinda LIKED it when
he did all that stuff. Why has he stopped? This sucks. He’s treating me like I’m
his friend or his little dog or something”
So it really gets her to kind of re-appreciate your for sexuality and for being
attracted to her.
And that will get her very much more interested in initiating sex with you again,
expressing affection to you more readily, and even making an effort to just be a
little bit less of an argumentative bitch sometimes.

INGRAINED HABITS AND DEVOLUTIONARY PATTERNS IN LONG TERM

RELATIONSHIPS
So that’s strategic withdrawal of affection. Very, VERY key principle.
We all fall into negative habits sometimes — and girls do too.
It’s easy to develop a habit of being argumentative, or complaining and
moaning a lot, or being quick to anger.
And if you study your own behavior you’ll find these habits often take hold in you,
and have to be uprooted.
Well, strategic withdrawal of affection is a great way to kind of signal to your
girlfriend — without ever saying anything outright — “look, there’s some shit you
need to work on here. We have a problem, and if you don’t make an effort to
fix it, I’m probably not going to be around much longer”
Now you never say this outright — but this is what’s sub communicated by
withdrawing affection.
And trust me — girls are intuitive, and they GET sub communication. When you
do this she will hear you LOUD AND CLEAR. And she will become more
attracted to you in the process.
Because showing her you have personal boundaries is sexy. Showing her that
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get because — “duhhh, well, she’s a gurl and I need a pussy to fuck so I’ll just
accept anything because I’m fuckin loser with no other options”…
Well… showing her you’re NOT that guy… showing from time to time that you
HAVE other options and that your affection for her is CONTINGENT and her
continuing excellent behavior —
It’s absolutely CRITICAL to maintaining a great healthy relationship with a high
value woman.

LESSONS FROM DOG TRAINING

It’s actually very similar to a principle I recently heard about in the context of dog
training.
And what a lot of dog trainers apparently say is that that the best way to punish a
dog for doing something wrong is to ignore it.
Apparently, if you hit the dog as punishment, actually you’re just giving it
attention which will reinforce the behavior.
Very interesting.
It’s kind of a similar thing with women.
This is one reason, you almost never to want to express your grievances with
her verbally.
Instead you want to communicate that you’re unhappy by ignoring her right
after she acts in a way you disapprove of — and this in way, she puts 1 and 1
together and figures out, “hey, when I do that, he ignores me and stops giving
me attention, and that feels BAD” and so she learns quickly not to do it.

COMMON MISTAKES OF GUYS IN RELATIONSHIPS

And a lot of guys go very, very wrong here — because what they’ll often is they’ll
express their grievances about their girlfriend’s behavior in the form of
arguing with her.
And in some cases the argument will become heated.
Now the problem with that… in some ways… women are kind of like dogs: the
very fact that you’re arguing with her is a form of GIVING HER ATTENTION, and
thus can actually reinforce the very behavior on part that you’re trying to stop.

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And this comes back to what we said earlier, which is that on a certain level,
women actually LIKE and NEED drama — they LIKE strong emotions — and
on some weird sado-masochistic level they kind of ENJOY arguing.
And so let’s say you’re pissed that your girlfriend keeps nagging you to take out
the trash even though they’ve breaking your back in work to put food on the table.
Well, what do most guys do?
They either let her walk all over them, or they explode in a rage and say, “you
always tell me to take out the fucking trash, Im fucking sick of it! You fucking spoilt
brat!” or whatever.
Now funny enough, right — obviously no woman likes being screamed at.
But there is an element of female sexuality that actually gets TURNED ON
when a man acts aggressive and loses his temper.
So now she’s acting in a dumb thoughtless way, and you’re trying to stop her from
doing that again.
But the very act of losing your temper is, on some subconscious level, almost
a REWARD for her — in the sense that you’re giving her attention, you’re
giving her drama and strong emotions, and you’re even giving her a sexual
thrill by the fact that you’re being so dominant and aggressive.
And so what kind of behaviour do you think that’s reinforcing?
Well, next time she subconsciously wants to feels that masochistic sexual
thrill of having you explode at her and yell at her — what’s she gonna do?
She’s going to keep nagging you and nagging and nagging you until you
fucking EXPLODE AGAIN — and she gets her spike of emotions, and you
reinforce the behavior, and it happens all over again.
And I’ve watched some of my friends’ relationships go to SHIT in that exact way.
So take a lesson from the dog trainers: IGNORING HER is the best punishment.
Anything else, just reinforces the behavior.

STEADY THREESOMES
OK. So, we’re nearing the end of this module and sadly to say, of this entire
course.
Before we finish up, I want to cover one more topic that may be of interest to you
and this is the question of how to get “steady threesomes” with your girlfriend.

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Now, full disclosure. This is the ONE thing in this course which I’ll teach you which
I do NOT have lot of first hand experience with.
In general, I try to avoid ever putting out how to material on something that I
haven’t personally done myself.
I actually a very, very deep conviction on this that when people put out content
which ostensibly teaches other people how to do practical — like pick up girls for
example — but if the first guy is kind of a bullshit artists and he’s exaggerating,
that can actually do a LOT of damage, by making people even confused and
muddled up.
So, as a general guiding, I NEVER write on things I don’t have a deep
understanding of — to the point that I can do it reliably, pretty much on command.
An example what would be, walking to a hot girl and generating attraction —
which I can do pretty much 100% at this point.
Or another example would be, getting one night stands. Now, I’m not so good that
I could out tonight and be absolutely certain that I’d get a girl to come home with
me — because there’s a big element of randomness involved in game.
What I do for a fact is that if right now, I decided to block this weekend, and to go
out to the clubs on Thursday, Friday, Saturday — the odds I would be in bed with a
pretty girl on Sunday morning.

The topic of threesomes is different.

I do not have a lot of experience in this area. I’ve had three way make outs and
stuff like that with girls in bars, and I’ve even had a few “close calls” whereby I’d
have like 2 girls on my bed at 3am drinking, and it probably could have become a
threesome if I’d done a few things differently — but it was no close, but no cigar.
Also, my current girlfriend has expressed a vague interest in doing threesomes
with another girl several — but I’ve never really felt super motivated to follow up on
it and put something together. Because to tell you truth, it’s just never been a
major fantasy of mine.

OK, so having gotten that out of the way, what follows on the topic is NOT my own
personal experience — but has mainly been gleaned from friends of mine, and
various dudes I’ve met and encountered online who were really good at pulling
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And I thought that just as a fun little bonus, I’d dive into some of these techniques
and principles here — just to make this course as comprehensive as possible in
giving you everything you could possibly want in the area of pickup and seduction.
So, there’s a couple schools of thought on this that I’ve been exposed to from
various guys who have a proven track record of getting threesomes.

THE FRAME YOU START WITH IS THE FRAME YOU’RE STUCK WITH
The first thing to bear in mind is the principle that “the frame you start with is the
frame you’re stuck with.”
In other words, if you meet and you have sex, and then you fall into the frame of
“boyfriend or girlfriend” — or at least, “seeing each other”…
The odds of you getting her to agree to a threesome at that point are LOW.
And the longer you’re with her, and that standard “relationship frame”
becomes set and fixed, the more difficult it’s going to become to change the
frame later on and suddenly have this radical new frame of “we were a
‘normal’ couple but now we do threesomes together”
That’s very unlikely to happen — or at best, it just makes the task much more
difficult.
What you really want to shoot for, is having a girlfriend who does threesomes
with you is your aim is this:

Step 1: You meet her, you hit it off together, and you fuck her.

Step 2: While you’re in bed together after sex having pillow talk, move the
conversation towards the subject of girl on girl.
Not in a sleazy way. You don’t want to be hamfisted about it. And you make your
overall vibe is really non-judgemental, really open.
So you might ask her something like:
“Have you ever kissed a girl before?”
And see what she says. Now, if you’re non-judgemental, most girls will tell you the
truth — which is that yes, she’s probably kissed several girls before, while partying
in clubs, or even just in a more intimate moment of experimentation with one of her
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So let her talk about that for a while. Feel her out.
Then you progress things by asking, “Have you ever thought about being with
another woman before?”
Again, if you show her that you’re totally non-judgemental, most women will say
yes to this.
In case you don’t, it’s been found that as much as 1 in 3 women have had sexual
fantasies of sleeping with another woman.
And personally, in my experience, when you’re talking about young girls in their
twenties it’s usually more like 2 in 3 or maybe even up to 80% of them have had
some sort of curious thoughts about what it would be like to be with another girl.

Ok — so you get her talking about all this.

You get her focused on and thinking about it. And by talking about it, she’s
inevitably going to get kind of horny.
Now, your INNER URGE as a guy — is when she starts saying she’s into girls,
for you to blurt out something like “huhuh, we should have a threesome”
DON’T DO IT.
Don’t try to fence her in here.
You’re only going to activate her logical mind and her resistance mechanism.
Instead what you want to do is just activate that fantasy of being with another girl
— and just let it rest there. Let her chew it over. Let it absorb down into her
subconscious.

Step 3: The very next day — while she’s in bed with you — you say “let’s go
out tonight, let’s hit the club, let’s party”
And bottom line, you take her out to a hot club with you, you have a few drinks,
you dance together, you get her in a sexual sensually activated state, maybe
you approach a few girls in front of her.
And then what you do is this.
You wanna create a roleplay.
And you wanna take her hand, and give her a mischievous smile and say “Let’s
pick up girls together. You and me. What do you say.”

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Now you frame this in a light-hearted, joking type of way. It’s a roleplay — just a
roleplay.
So a lot of times, she’ll go along with that.
And so you look around, and you find a hot girl you like, and then you point to
her, and ask your girl: “What do you think of her? Do you think she’s hot?”
And if she says yes, then give her a mischievous little look again and say “let’s
seduce her together and take advantage of her tonight ;-)”
And so it becomes this fun, sexy little secret conspiracy you’re both in on. That’s
the way you frame it.

PICKING UP GIRLS FOR A THREESOME WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND CAN BE

EASIER THAN PICKING UP GIRLS ALONE
Now, from every guy I’ve learned from on this, the general consensus among them
is that believe it or not, in many ways it’s actually EASIER to pick up girls for a
threesome with a girl you’re with than it is to get a one night stand on your own.
Which seems crazy — because a threesome is obviously much rarer behavior.
But it actually makes a lot of sense why it might be that way — the most obvious
reason being that if you’re with a girl, and she’s clearly into you, that
demonstrates a massive amount of SOCIAL PROOF to other girls — it shows
you must be high value because you’re in demand — and it also shows you’re
SAFE to go home with.
This OTHER girl trusts you and therefore you can’t be a creeper or a weirdo.
The other factor at play here, I believe, is that many girls really DO want to have
a threesome but just never get a really easy opportunity to do it.
Same way that the majority of guys would love to have a threesome if the
opportunity fell into their lap — well, a huge number of hot young girls are like that
too.
Which is sort of hard to believe at first, because you’d imagine that they could get
a threesome any time they snapped their fingers
But it’s not really the case, because the fact is women are utterly petrified of the
prospect of being REJECTED and so they’ll almost NEVER put themselves on the
line to proposition for a sexual encounter even if they would LOVE to do it.
So when you and your girl come along and you start flirting with this third girl and
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and everything — well, you’d be probably be surprised by the sheer number of
women who will 100% go along with this without any questions and who’ll be
demonstrably VERY aroused.

Now, once you’ve made contact with your target and the three of you are flirting
and maybe having a three-way makeout or just an intimate three way hug — it
becomes pretty much the same as any other pull.
Take the girls and lead them to the taxi. Give your target plausible deniability
— probably a good idea not to mention sex overtly, she’ll pick up on the signals
non-verbally. Just say something like “let’s all go back party at my place”, or
“let’s go to the afterparty”
And once you’re back at yours, some music, have a few drinks, make out together
some more.
And if you need a “transition” into the sex itself — really the best option is probably
going to be the dual induction massage invented by Neil Strauss and made
famous in his book the game.
And the Dual Induction Massage is basically where you spout this sneaky little
routine where you basically, “You know, I once had the most amazing
experience. I went to a shaman in… India, and he gave me this incredible
massage called the Dual Induction massage. What is it? Well, basically, if two
people massage your back in synchronised movements at the exact same
time, so that you four hands on you at once — your brain can’t process it, and
it feels like you’re being massaged by thousands of hands. It’s really amazing.
Here, let me show you….”
So you get your girlfriend (who’s in on this) to take off her top off lie down on her
front and then you and the target massage her back.
Next, you take off your shirt, lie down yourself and get the girls to massage you.
Finally, you get your target to take her top off and lie down while you and the other
girl massage her, but this time you start making it more sexual.
You massage up her legs, you stroke her inner thighs, you start touching her ass —
and you get your girlfriend to do the same to her.
Really helps if you some Karma Sutra oil, or virgin coconut oil, or something like
that on hand here by the way. It’s not necessary, but it will definitely make the
massage better and make things much more erotic.
Both the girls are now going to be feeling horny.

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At this point you simply stop massaging the girl who’s lying down and kiss your
girlfriend who’s facing you. The target will look up when you stop massaging, and
that’s when you gesture her to join the kiss. Once both the girls have started
kissing each other, it’s on, and the threesome is now pretty much going to happen
automatically from there.

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OK — so congratulations, man. You made it to the final module. You’ve completed
Godlike Power: How To Seduce 9s and 10s. And you’ve officially “graduated” from
this course.

THE “BIG IDEA” BEHIND GODLIKE POWER — REVEALED

Now, before I finish up, I want to reveal a secret about this course and the way it
was designed.
And I think if you understand my thought process for exactly how I decided to
structure this material, it will make you much more effective at getting a great
girlfriend and keeping her.
But it’s a little bit subtle — so just try to follow me.
When I sat down to plan out this course, I set myself the aim that every guy who
goes through it and applies the principles would end up in a relationship with
his personal perfect 10 within a year.
And I wrote that down. And then after that I wrote, “Question: What has to be
done to achieve to that outcome?”
And I thought about it long and hard.
And I came up with a few different answers. Like one answer was, “well, he would
have to know HOW to get a perfect 10. So he needs to have knowledge.”
But I realized that couldn’t be the answer — because more knowledge about
pickup does not necessarily make you better at it. For example, the guys who
hang out on PUA forums all day and have an extensive knowledge of pickup
techniques are RARELY dating 10s. So having more knowledge CAN’T be the
answer.
So then I thought, “well maybe what he would need to date a perfect 10 would be
to have more CONFIDENCE around women — so if my course could give him
confidence, self-worth, a feeling of entitlement, then he would be dating the 10.”

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But I realized that still isn’t really it. Because can you feel 100% confident in
yourself — and yet NOT be dating a 10?
Absolutely. Because what actually happens? Well, funnily enough, sometimes the
more confident you feel, the LESS motivated you are to approach really hot
girls — because in a paradoxical way you want to PRESERVE that confident
state and good mood, and so you don’t RISK losing it by approaching her.

So the answer I came to was this — “In order for him to date his dream girl, he
has to TAKE ACTION when he sees her. If he did NOTHING but TOOK ACTION
every time he saw a girl he was really attracted to — I have no doubt that he
would be dating his dream girl within a year.”
And I thought — YES. That’s it.
Because even if you approach a few 9s and 10s and it doesn’t go anywhere,
the very act of actually approaching these girls will make you more
COMFORTABLE around beautiful women — which in my opinion is probably
the biggest hurdle — so that soon enough you’ll actually end up pulling one.
But it’s all contingent on TAKING ACTION by approaching hot girls when you see
them in real life. That’s the key. ACTION.
Now, of course, that raised another question. “Well, if my ultimate goal is to get
my ideal client to TAKE ACTION and approach every time he sees a really hot
girl, how can I get him to do that?”

And that’s when I came to the logic that I decided would underline this entire
course.
And I wrote down, “To get my client to a situation where he’s dating his dream girl
within a year, he needs to TAKE ACTION with these types of girls on a regular basis
by approaching them. And the best way to get him to take action is to REMOVE
HIS FEAR.”
And I realized — THAT is the key. The best way to get someone to take action is
to remove their fear.
When you remove fear, taking action becomes natural and effortless.
FEAR is the enemy. Not lack of knowledge.

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And this train of thought crystallized something I’d been thinking about very
seriously for many years — and that’s the whole question of FRAMES and
REFRAMING.

THE SUPREME IMPORTANCE OF FRAME

Because I realized a long time ago, that the WAY YOU FRAME A SITUATION —
the way you internally choose to interpret something — can have a DRAMATIC
EFFECT on your body’s adrenal response to that situation.
In other words, how you choose to frame a situation can either make you feel
MORE fear about that situation, or less fear.
And so the goal — when we’re talking about practical pursuits like pickup —
isn’t necessarily to find the frame that is most quote unquote “objectively
accurate”. Rather, the goal is to find the frame — or create the frame — that
REMOVES YOUR FEAR OF TAKING ACTION.
Here’s an example.

THE “HOT GIRL” FRAME

Let’s look at the whole idea of “hot girls” themselves.
Already, simply by the language we’re using when we talk about a “hot girl” —
we’re putting one frame on the situation which is not necessarily helpful in
getting us to take action by approaching these girls.
And of course the whole language of “hot girls” implies that she’s part of an elite.
And particularly if you’re a guy who doesn’t have that much experience with
women yet, the frame of “hot girls” makes the woman in question seem exotic
and almost alien — like she’s some kind of different species.
And so what happens when you see a “hot girl” and you’re in that frame? Well, it
causes your body to have a FEAR response — it releases adrenaline. And fear
inhibits action.
But what happens if you look at “hot girls” from a different frame?
Such as, the frame I got from Alexander of the 4 Week Natural — “think of her on
Christmas morning opening presents under the tree with her parents. Instead
of being a bitchy hot girl at a club, she’s just a silly dork with glasses on and a
retainer, and no makeup.”

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Well, when you start to TRAIN YOURSELF to view women through that frame,
it’s going to cause you to have a completely different reaction to them.
You won’t respond with fear, because she won’t seem so exotic and alien to you.
And part of the reason for that is that the Christmas morning frame subconsciously
emphasizes your similarity with this girl — rather than your differences. Because
your brain thinks “I remember being a child or a teenager on Christmas morning
and being a silly dork as I opened presents”. And the girl has also had that
experience.
And so when you think of her in those terms, you realize that you’re both just
human beings. She’s not some kind of exotic, cruel different species. And so
there’s nothing to be afraid of from her. And approaching becomes a lot less
difficult.
Here’s another example of how framing something and changing its meaning
removes fear and makes taking action almost automatic:

THE “PICK UP GIRLS” FRAME

The whole idea of “gaming girls”, or “picking up girls”, or “going out to learn
game”.
These are actually BAD FRAMES.
It’s necessary to use this language when talking to guys who are new to pickup —
simply because we have to a name for these things in order to communicate
properly.
But when it comes to how you represent the idea of approaching women to
yourself — internally — thinking about it in terms of “picking up girls”, “gaming
girls” is actually bad.
And the reason why is that that language causes you to put a frame on the
situation which will make you fearful, uncertain, tense, hesitant, and self-
conscious.
A much better frame through which to view the entire activity of approaching
women (and your own motivations for doing so) is one that I got from Brian Burke.
Which is every time you’re about to go out to do game, or you’re about to
approach a woman, and you feel some inner resistance or nervousness — to
remind yourself, “why am I doing this? I’m doing this because I love women. I
love their femininity, I love their bodies, I love their personalities. I love
women.”

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And again, when you TRAIN yourself to habitually think about approaching women
in that way — it greatly reduces your fear and hesitation.
And that’s because it puts you in touch with your real personal motivation for doing
this — which is ultimately that you love women and femininity and you want MORE
OF IT in your life.
And another great thing about that frame — is that it will make your vibe with girls
much more attractive. Because it’s an inherently non-needy, non-outcome
dependent frame.
Because look at the subtle distinction here between these two frames and what
they imply:
Frame #1: “I’m going out to pick up girls”, or “I’m approaching this woman to
try and pick her up”.
Vs.
Frame #2: “I’m going out to approach girls because I love their femininity, I
love their personalities, I love their bodies”, or “I’m approaching this girl
because I love her femininity and I want to be around it”
Well, in the first frame — when your goal is pickup — it’s zero sum. Either you pick
her up, in which case you win, by accomplishing your aim as you’ve framed it. Or,
as is much more likely to be the case, you don’t pick her up then and there for
whatever reason, and so you “lose” by not accomplishing your aim as you’ve
framed it.
And that frame will give you — for lack of a better term — a bad vibe. It will make
you outcome dependent, so you’ll come off to the girl as needy, manipulative,
having an agenda, seeking to make an impression and overall, unable to enjoy the
present moment.
But now let’s look at the second frame — the appreciation frame, or the “I love
femininity” frame. Simply by approaching the girl, you’re already winning. By
approaching her, you get to enjoy her femininity. You get to enjoy looking at
her body and her face — it’s “eye candy”. You get to enjoy her personality and
her girlishness by talking to her.
And if you pick her up — great. Now you can keep enjoying her femininity by
getting to spend even more time with her.
But no matter what happens, when you have the appreciation frame, any moment
of time you get to spend in a pretty girl’s presence is viewed as being a privilege,
and a moment in time in which you’re getting exactly what you want in life just
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And that frame will give you a TOTALLY DIFFERENT vibe to the first. Because
there’s no fear. It’s not zero sum. Just by going up and approaching you’re already
winning.
And trust me, if you’re approaching a lot, and you’ve habitually trained yourself to
have THAT frame — you’re going to get laid. And you’re going to get laid with
hotter girls, too.
It’s just inevitable.
Because when you change your frame of what women are, and what approaching
them means — and you change it in a way which is motivating, but at the same
time doesn’t trigger anxiety — then you’ll be more likely to actually approach. And
approaching will be easier and feel more natural.
And the more you approach, the more practice you get, and the more your brain
just automatically starts to sort out the behaviors that work from those that don’t,
and you get better and better results.

And so that’s the secret of this course. That’s the operative principle of Godlike
Power.
Almost every piece of content I included in this course — every analogy, every
metaphor, every principle, the way in which techniques were framed and
presented — was ENGINEERED to REMOVE FEAR, thus making it easier to
take action.
And that’s the essence of Godlike Power. You choose your FRAMES — you
choose the way you INTERNALLY REPRESENT a situation — not based on
what’s true or not, but what is useful in getting you to take action.
Because at the end of the day, we don’t really know what’s true, do we? A wise
man once said, “things are seldom what they seem”.
A woman who seems “nice” may in fact be a genuine psychopath. A woman who
seems like a cold, cruel bitch may in fact be a sweet little dork who’s incredibly
affectionate and loyal once you actually get to know her.
Not only do we not know what’s “really” true — but even if we have some idea,
there are always going to be multiple different ways to interpret any given situation
that are all equally “true” so far as we know.
And Godlike Power — means systematically choosing the interpretation which
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Because that is really the closest thing we can get to knowing the truth. We can’t
know the truth with our minds alone.
But if we take enough action in any given area of life, eventually we’ll get an
intuitive understanding of what works and what doesn’t.
And then you actually have some shot at knowing what’s “true”, or at least feeling
it. It’s the difference between understanding something with your whole being, and
having “knowledge” of it with just your head.
A wise man once said:
“To ‘know’ and to ‘know how to do’ are two different things. And knowing
how to do is not created by knowledge alone… As a rule, when people realize
that they do not understand a thing they try to find a name for what they do
not ‘understand,’ and when they find a name they say they ‘understand.’ But
to ‘find a name’ does not mean to ‘understand.’ Unfortunately, people are
usually satisfied with names. A man who knows a great many names, that is,
a great many words, is deemed to understand a great deal — excepting, of
course, any sphere of practical activity wherein his ignorance very soon
becomes evident.” (G.I. Gurdjieff, quoted in In Search Of The Miraculous, by
P.D. Ouspensky)
Knowledge is worthless. Understanding is what gives you power. And action
is how you get understanding.
ACTION is POWER. That’s it. That’s all power is — the ability to TAKE
ACTION.
And that’s why reframing is the golden key — because the way you internally frame
things will make you or more less able to take action when the situation calls for it.

So, that’s a bit of a “meta” discussion on the underlying rationale behind this
system.
It’s a framework of approaching teaching pickup that I’ve been thinking about for a
long time now — but this is the first time I based an entire course on it.
And hopefully, understanding that’s the rationale I was going for will actually allow
you to get the maximum of value out of this course and get the results you want as
fast as humanly possible.

I hope this course has put you on the right track in terms attracting your dream
woman for a wonderful relationship, on your terms.

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I had a ton of fun making this for you, and I hope to see you again soon. I wish you
all the best in your future success with women and in life.
Make sure to send me any questions, success stories, testimonials or just anything
you want to my email address which is mike@insurgentmedia.tv
And I look forward to hearing from you.
That’s all from me.
This has been Godlike Power. I’m Mike Haines.
Godspeed.

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