Bride-to-be reveals the shameful reason she uninvited her own mom from the wedding

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A bride-to-be has revealed she uninvited her own mom from the wedding after she entered into a love affair with her ex-boyfriend. 

The unnamed woman took to Reddit to detail the shock and frustration she felt when she discovered that her mother had struck up a romance with her 'toxic' former lover.

She noted that she was so upset when her mom unveiled her new relationship that she had banned her from attending her special day. 

As a result, the bride's mother broke down in a flood of tears and accused her daughter of being 'selfish.' 

Now, the blushing bride has taken to the discussion forum in a thread titled Am I Overreacting to question if she is in the wrong for demanding her mother not be a part of her nuptials. 

A bride has revealed she uninvited her mom from her wedding after she entered a love affair with her ex-boyfriend (stock image)

The post was titled: 'Am I overreacting for telling my mom she's not invited to my wedding after she started dating my ex?'  

She explained: 'I've been engaged to my fiancé for a while now, and I was genuinely excited to have my mom involved in planning our wedding. Our family has always prided itself on being close-knit, but recently, that sense of unity has been shattered.

'Over the past few months, I noticed my mom's behavior changing dramatically. She began canceling plans at the last minute, often citing vague reasons or saying she was "too busy." I tried not to jump to conclusions, but something felt off. The last time we met, she seemed distant and preoccupied, constantly checking her phone. I brushed it off, thinking she might be dealing with work stress or personal issues.

'After weeks of this unsettling behavior, I decided I couldn't keep ignoring my gut feeling. I confronted her one evening when we were having dinner. I asked if everything was okay and if there was something she wanted to talk about. 

'She hesitated, looking uncomfortable, before finally admitting she had been seeing someone. I pressed for details, and to my shock, she insisted it was someone I wouldn't know.' 

The bride revealed she was desperate to find out who her mom's mystery man was and continued pressing her for more information. 

However, when her mother finally revealed the name of her new lover, the bride was left jaw-dropped.

She added: 'At that point, my curiosity and worry spiraled into full-blown anxiety. I respected her privacy, but my instinct was screaming that something was wrong. What if she was hiding something bigger?

The unnamed woman took to Reddit to detail the shock and frustration she felt when she discovered that her mother had struck up a romance with her 'toxic' former lover 

'A few days later, she showed up at my house unannounced. Her demeanor was tense, and I could tell she was anxious about something. 

'I thought maybe she was finally going to introduce her new boyfriend, which I was hopeful about despite my earlier suspicions. Instead, she dropped a bombshell: she had been dating my ex for the past few months.

'I was utterly floored. My ex and I had a tumultuous relationship that ended badly. He had cheated on me multiple times, leaving me heartbroken and struggling to trust again. My mom knew the pain he caused me and how hard I fought to move on from that toxic relationship.' 

The bride confessed that she felt 'betrayed' and 'completely blindsided' as she confessed that she was 'emotionally shattered.'  

'In a moment of anger and hurt, I told her she was no longer welcome at my wedding. I explained that having her there would only serve as a painful reminder of the hurt he caused and that I didn't want her standing by my side while she was with him. 

'Her reaction shocked me — she broke down in tears, accusing me of being unreasonable and selfish. She said she deserved to be happy too, and that I was trying to control her life.

'The fallout from this has been intense. My family is now divided. Some relatives agree with me, stating that I have every right to protect my special day from that kind of emotional turmoil. 

'Others, however, think I'm overreacting and that I should simply accept her choice and move on. The whole situation has created this unbearable tension during what should be one of the happiest times of my life,' the wife-to-be said. 

People on the web flooded the comments section and slammed the bride's mom for her shocking behavior

She noted that her fiancé had attempted to talk to her mother but felt like he was stuck in the middle. 

At the end of the post, she questioned if she was being 'unreasonable' as she said: 'Now, with the wedding day approaching, I'm filled with anxiety and dread. My mom has started posting about the "betrayal" on social media, portraying me as the villain. 

'She's reaching out to family members for sympathy, saying I'm being cruel and unloving. Some relatives are siding with her, which only adds to the pressure. I feel isolated and betrayed by the very person I thought I could trust the most.

'So, Reddit, am I overreacting for uninviting my mom to my wedding after she started dating my ex? I genuinely feel torn and hurt, and I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable here.' 

People on the web flooded the comments section and slammed the bride's mom for her shocking behavior.

One person said: 'Cut her off completely, and insist that your fiancé does the same. If he refuses, call off the wedding.

'You are not overreacting. Your mom is a toxic piece of work, and detrimental to your mental health.'

Someone else added: 'No. It's your wedding, and you have the right to protect yourself from emotional turmoil.'

Another person wrote: 'I get why you'd feel betrayed, your mom dating your ex is a huge blow. You deserve to have a happy day without all that drama. Trust your gut on this!'

One user commented: 'Your ex is using your mom to sabotage your impending marriage.'